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My wife and I have been married for 10 years (April 8th of this year) and have four beautiful children, from 10 years old down to 1 years of age with one in Heaven.
I work in home health so my schedule is pretty flexible. I don’t have set times to be at work or get off work. For a very long time we attended daily Mass, every single morning. Ever since we miscarried our last child, it seems like we are both more tired than usual. Getting up early every morning and getting the children ready…well it doesn’t happen every morning. We usually get to daily Mass two to three times per week, but I am feeling guilty that it isn’t a daily ritual anymore.
My question is whether anyone with children or not has had a similar experience? I know daily Mass isn’t required, but I love going. Thanks for the (name removed by moderator)ut.
 
We live in an area where there is a morning mass at the same time I was getting my children off to school. When my youngest got his drivers license, I thought hooray, daily mass!

😊 Nope. I still like to see him off.

However, I have gone to mass at noon. I understand how you like to attend daily mass. It does make me feel more anchored. But sometimes, appointments and family obligations come up and I can’t make it.

I don’t think you should feel guilty. It is not a requirement. If you can go, you go. Have you checked if there are masses at nearby churches for a different time? Maybe even a half hour later?
 
Irishmom2 said:
We live in an area where there is a morning mass at the same time I was getting my children off to school. When my youngest got his drivers license, I thought hooray, daily mass!

😊 Nope. I still like to see him off.

However, I have gone to mass at noon. I understand how you like to attend daily mass. It does make me feel more anchored. But sometimes, appointments and family obligations come up and I can’t make it.

I don’t think you should feel guilty. It is not a requirement. If you can go, you go. Have you checked if there are masses at nearby churches for a different time? Maybe even a half hour later?
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We are blessed with three Catholic parishes and a Basilica, all within 20 miles of where we live. The three parishes are all within 4 miles and the Basilica is about 12 miles away. Mass times are as early as 7:45 AM and as late as 7 PM with times in between.
It seems the more children we have, the more of a chore it is to take all the kids out. 😦
 
jab42483 said:
We are blessed with three Catholic parishes and a Basilica, all within 20 miles of where we live. The three parishes are all within 4 miles and the Basilica is about 12 miles away. Mass times are as early as 7:45 AM and as late as 7 PM with times in between.
It seems the more children we have, the more of a chore it is to take all the kids out. 😦
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Lucky you to have so many choices!

I know you like to attend with your wife, but perhaps you could each go alone on alternating days? Think of it as an opportunity to recharge your faith batteries, lol!
 
Irishmom2 said:
Lucky you to have so many choices!

I know you like to attend with your wife, but perhaps you could each go alone on alternating days? Think of it as an opportunity to recharge your faith batteries, lol!
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It sounds crazy, but we hate being away from each other. We spend all the time we can together since I work and she stays home.
 
If your loss was relatively recent, I would give it some more time. It was months (think 6+) before I could do much more than what really had to be done.

I am so sorry for your loss.
 
jlc2k2 said:
If your loss was relatively recent, I would give it some more time. It was months (think 6+) before I could do much more than what really had to be done.

I am so sorry for your loss.
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I’m so glad you commented. Life seems so different since we lost our last…so different. Thank you again for that comment.
 
In our area there are some churches that have evening daily mass. Is that a possibility for when you are too tired in the mornings.🙂
 
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In our area there are some churches that have evening daily mass. Is that a possibility for when you are too tired in the mornings.🙂
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It is possible…but unlikely. Two parishes offer evening Masses on different days. By 7-730 we have the kids in bed so we can relax and I can do paperwork (home health nurse).
 
I go to daily mass with my two and a half year old on the days I don’t work (two days a week). I began taking her to daily mass when she was 6 months (back then 5 days a week because I wasn’t working). When I am tired or have had a hard week, I just can’t seem to get out of the house on time. This has been happening a lot lately, I think because I am pregnant I am finding it harder to keep on top of things. On those mornings, I just try and be extra attentive at getting my household work done. It helps me feel better about it.

I agree, it’s confusing, the emotions surrounding missing daily mass…I have no answer for you, I feel guilty too when it happens, and sometimes I am not sure also if I should be going to mass either, because I find it much harder to finish off all my jobs properly for the day when I do. Martha or Mary conundrum… it’s easy to say I should try and emulate Mary instead of Martha, by going to mass and put the household second, but Mary didn’t have a high energy toddler to keep busy while she was sitting listening to Jesus… lol, but I digress…

Maybe just say you will go on Mondays and Wednesdays only for three months. And then at the end of three months you will commit to going every day once again. At least this way the nagging feeling you should be up and about won’t disturb any extra rest you do manage to get. And you both probably really do need that rest.
 
Gliggle said:
I go to daily mass with my two and a half year old on the days I don’t work (two days a week). I began taking her to daily mass when she was 6 months (back then 5 days a week because I wasn’t working). When I am tired or have had a hard week, I just can’t seem to get out of the house on time. This has been happening a lot lately, I think because I am pregnant I am finding it harder to keep on top of things. On those mornings, I just try and be extra attentive at getting my household work done. It helps me feel better about it.

I agree, it’s confusing, the emotions surrounding missing daily mass…I have no answer for you, I feel guilty too when it happens, and sometimes I am not sure also if I should be going to mass either, because I find it much harder to finish off all my jobs properly for the day when I do. Martha or Mary conundrum… it’s easy to say I should try and emulate Mary instead of Martha, by going to mass and put the household second, but Mary didn’t have a high energy toddler to keep busy while she was sitting listening to Jesus… lol, but I digress…

Maybe just say you will go on Mondays and Wednesdays only for three months. And then at the end of three months you will commit to going every day once again. At least this way the nagging feeling you should be up and about won’t disturb any extra rest you do manage to get. And you both probably really do need that rest.
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Thank you for that, was very helpful this morning. 🙂
 
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