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I am on a few ,and only people I get are mean or pedophiles ,or someone w a record …
I even warn people on Facebook about the phishing schemes some of these sites have
how many here go thru this ,trying to find a boy/girl friend and technology isn’t helping much
 
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yes I tried them and positive singles and catholic match and Christian websites
 
Catholic Match and Ave Maria Singles are legit.

Personally, including myself I know 5 couples who met and married due to Catholic Match. There are many others online here.
 
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I was on OKCupid. Total waste… Now, I spend money on myself 😊
 
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@cruciferi
yes I tried them and positive singles and catholic match and Christian websites
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For Catholic Match

-Did you follow the guidelines for a good profile, all 7 boxes checked, descriptions filled.
-Were you on for at least a year
-Did you report any less-than-legit people
-Did you search outside of your immediate area but still within a reasonable area
-Were you paid or free
-Did you reach out to people within an appropriate age
-Did you reach out appropriately with a common interest and without ultimatiums
 
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Xanthippe_Voorhees:
Did you reach out appropriately with a common interest and without ultimatiums
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Maybe that was my problem…

SINGLE MAN LOOKING FOR WEALTHY PRINCESS. MUST BE ABLE TO PROVE ROYAL LINEAGE AND OWN HER OWN CASTLE
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In all seriousness, I was on CM for almost 10 years and Ave for about 6. I could probably consult on profiles and intro messages. Most people do a horrendous job.
 
That’s why I’m gonna let the chips fall where they may. I’m on the cusp of earning good money and I have a Presidential Campaign to plan for. Being single has its advantages!
 
thanks everyone
my post always reads
young woman looking for a local man to date , I dont date men who take pics w their kids because sometimes those kids is not theirs ,and I don’t date men older than me must be my age .
I get a lot of feedback good and bad
 
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thanks everyone
my post always reads
young woman looking for a local man to date , I dont date men who take pics w their kids because sometimes those kids is not theirs ,and I don’t date men older than me must be my age .
I get a lot of feedback good and bad
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Yeah…in some of my pictures I took them with my niece. I also went out on dates with men who had wonderful family pictures.

I understand wanting people “your age” but you need to define that. For me, I was ok with 3 years younger and up to 5 years older. My husband is 2 years younger.

Also local…while I found my husband locally, it’s not all it’s cracked up to be. My friend is marrying someone from Spain and it is every bit God’s will and God’s grace.

So in short, I’m zero percent surprized you haven’t had a date.
 
@xanthippe_voorhess
I try to be honest as much as possible , I cannot stand men posting w kids ,I seen pedophiles do that ,and claim the kids are his just to get a mother and children , it a lure tactic , and I always get pm from those who are 1 or 2 years older than me , but I dont date them unless they are near me
 
It seems that English is not your native language, maybe have a good friend help you write a profile?

Something along the lines of:

"Catholic lady, age XX, professional, educated, artistic, physically fit seeks to meet the same in a man of virtue between the ages of X and Y. I am not interested in long-distance, prefer to meet local men.

I like spy novels and Thai food. My favorite authors are Tom Wolfe and St. John of the Cross."

ETA. Also take care with your profile photo. If you use an image like the one you use here, it could give off some other signals (the scantily clad woman in your little icon thingy).
 
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Quite frankly, I’d be surprised if you ever get a date. 1 or 2 years is nothing.

You will figure out pretty quickly if a man has children or not. It’s fine to not want to date a man with children, but to not date them because they took a picture with a child is really odd.
 
no @xanthippe_voorhees
its because that , a Man who post pics of kids might not be his kids they might be his victims pedophiles use dating sites to lure women w children to them , @thelittlelady actually I am fluent in many languages ,that’s not the problem the problem is as I indicated above that these men a luring women to rape their kids .
 
Hi Lordie,

You’re right that there are some “shady” men or even criminal or pedophiles on dating apps that everyone needs to be cautious about.
However,if you seem to be attracting their attention more than other women on the app/sights then there may be an issue with what you are writing.

Where you mentioned “I don’t date men who take pics with their kids…” etc is this something that you are just stating to posters on CAF or is this something that you are writing in your dating profile itself?

What are you writing in your dating profile apart from that you are looking for a local man?
Which age group are you in?

In my view,by writing a good description and what you are looking for then helps to decrease the number of shady or sleazy men who contact you.

Also,sorry if this sounds forward and I’m not suggesting this applies to you,but sometimes people who have been sexually abused as a child by a pedophile can have a stronger “pedo meter” and be hyper vigilant and somehow even attract them.
 
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Perhaps you might run your written posts, profiles, etc. through a free service like Grammarly.


No one here is bullying you. We are attempting to assist you. For heaven’s sake, none of us type posts with the same care we take with a thesis paper, however, basic grammar/punctuation is nice.
 
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