Over the past few weeks I found it nearly impossible to go a whole day without sin. For example today I called someone a gossip spoke rudely to a few people and brought attention to someone’s racist joke. How can we avoid mortal sin. I try to pray a Rosary every night and I always try and say a prayer to St. Michael. I last confessed on Saturday and I think I have already committed 3 sins. How do I not loose hope?
in this life God does not ask us to be perfect all at once, but only to reach for perfection, and to never give up, that is what matters most, not that we never offend God, but that we never willingly offend Him(without caring).
just try your best, and be humble with yourself, acknowledging that you are a weak and sinful creature is humility, but being dissapointed in yourself and getting depressed or despaired for sinning is a hidden type of pride, because it’s not regarding yourself as the weak creature you really are, who is completely dependent on Gods grace to do any good whatsoever.
you need to learn and grow in virtue, it won’t happen all at once, and in order to learn how to be virtuous, you must know yourself, which you learn by a daily examination of conscience, by looking at your sins and falls and mistakes each day, knowing what you can expect from yourself, and then thinking of ways to better yourself, which is what a spiritual director is really helpful for(i’d highly recommend a priest from the fssp if you have one nearby)
remember that God brings good out of evil, and so you should never get despaired over your falls, but instead try to find the good that can be brought out of them, which may just be to learn from them.
and when you do fall, just make sure to say you’re sorry, maybe with an act of contrition, and then do some small penance for the sin…because it’s not that we shouldn’t care if we’ve sinned(of course we should) it’s just that our sorrow should be in the right place, when we get disappointed in ourselves because we’ve sinned, that is a sign of pride(it’s like saying, “
I should have done better” when in reality it’s just what you can expect from yourself when you don’t ask God for help.), but when we become sorrowful that we have offended God, then that’s a sign of love for God.
it may be a long and difficult process, but remember you never do it alone, God is always with you, even if it doesn’t feel like it, and you always need His grace to do any good, so always remember to ask for His help in even the smallest temptations or troubles,
and just be patient with yourself, you need to grow at the pace that is best for you, and God is helping you to do that, so just keep at it,
and if there’s something you just don’t think you can do(or not do) then just pray on it, and ask God to do it for you.
i would recommend reading the lives of the saints, these ones in particular are very good, and affordable -
store.saintbenedict.com/index.php?page=shop.browse&category_id=12&option=com_virtuemart&Itemid=1&vmcchk=1&Itemid=1
and check this out too -
audiosancto.org/
so, just keep going to confession, keep praying, and place your hope in God, not yourself.
alright, so i hope this helps, take care.