Dealing with regret

[LilyRose_8891]

This is general, but how do you deal with thinking about things you really wish you had done differently and wish you could go back and do over but will never get a second chance to do?

 

[ahs]

Prayer has worked best for me in these types of situations. You could ask God to help you move through the regret and make it into a learning experience. You can use the “lesson learned” to help others who might make the same mistake. But mainly, prayer has been best in my experience.

 

[ClearWater]

This is general, but how do you deal with thinking about things you really wish you had done differently and wish you could go back and do over but will never get a second chance to do?

I have a lot of regrets, but I use all that life experience I acquired through those years when interacting with others and try to help encourage them not to make a lot of the mistakes I made.

 

[Cricket2]

This is general, but how do you deal with thinking about things you really wish you had done differently and wish you could go back and do over but will never get a second chance to do?

I can only suggest that you hand this to God. We can’t fix the past but we can correct what is wrong here and now. We can prepare for a better future that is kinder, more honest, brighter if we recognize our previous errors and commit to changing the behavior and.or attitude that got us in trouble the first time.

We all have something we wish we hadn’t done or said. Don’t hang on to the past, learn from it and then move on. Offer it all to God, go to confession if you need, and then let it be.

 

[gardenswithkids]

Part of it comes from living long enough to see that God is working with us even when we make bad choices. The choices we make lead us to different places, and once you reach a certain point in life, you may see that God took your the sins and bad choices in your past, and somehow while they were still sins and bad choices, He made things okay.

And sometimes, He really does give us other chances to choose differently.

 

[SuperLuigi]

This is general, but how do you deal with thinking about things you really wish you had done differently and wish you could go back and do over but will never get a second chance to do?

Ultimately, you have to understand the mistake and move on.

Despair can be a very serious sin.

 

[fbl9]

This is general, but how do you deal with thinking about things you really wish you had done differently and wish you could go back and do over but will never get a second chance to do?

in my case I am happy where I am now and if I changed my past I wouldn’t be where I am now. That’s how I deal with my regrets. There are many of them too.

 

[fred_conty]

This is general, but how do you deal with thinking about things you really wish you had done differently and wish you could go back and do over but will never get a second chance to do?

Looking back is shooting yourself in the foot because you can’t stand being happy again. A person will punish themselves with unforgiveness over and over so they feel justified. Because they haven’t received enough punishment to feel clean again, so they just keep rubbing it into their soul to keep the pain alive hoping someday that going thru all of this pain that they will feel ok once more.

Just remember that all punishment comes from God in one way or another. If he has mercy on you then he is saying that you are forgiven and don’t worry about it any longer. My mercy will cover it, my love for you is sufficient. If you keep punishing yourself then that is indirectly refusing God’s love and mercy.

Just go on and every morning you wake up just accept it say to him “I love you”.

May God bless and keep you. May God’s face shine on you. May God be kind to you and give you peace.

 

[Caroline723]

This is the area where I am weakest at, and probably the greatest source of sin for me. Self-forgiveness is a difficult battle.

Just this past weekend a priest in confession reminded me that confession brings us back to the moment of our baptism. While it’s an obvious truth, it resonated for me because of my tendency to dwell in a state of regret. Imagine being able to go back to the place before we did those things that weigh on us so greatly now? But this is what confession does. In many ways, confession is more valuable to fallen man than the Eucharist.

The bottom line is that salvation is worked out in the here and now. If we dwell on the past, we are cheating ourselves of the here and now. If we spend all our time worrying about tomorrow, we lose now as well.

 

[tawny]

Pray for the spiritual fortitude to move forward in your life. Go to confession, confess your sins, do your penance and start your life with a clean slate. We have all done things we regret, we are human, we are all sinners. Yet God in his infinite mercy and love; still loves us and he welcomes us back with open arms. Put on the armour of Christ and go forth. God bless you.

 

[hsmomforlife]

This is general, but how do you deal with thinking about things you really wish you had done differently and wish you could go back and do over but will never get a second chance to do?

You can’t change the past…all you can do is use it to help you make the best decisions in the future…learn from the past and make a concerted effort to not repeat it.
If your actions in the past involved hurting someone else, (abortion etc.) pray for them, and ask them to pray for you…in spirit or in person…
Quit reliving it in your head…if that is what you do, it’s called being neurotic…overthinking things…and it doesn’t help anything! Let it go…

 

[hsmomforlife]

I also realize that there are times where people have said or done things to me that I have completely forgiven and ‘dealt with’…that there are things which people have agonized over which didn’t really mean anything to me…
So I try to think about the things I regret and hope and pray (and realize) that most of the people that I’m concerned about have already moved past the ‘issue’ and that they might not have even felt slighted…and they have forgotten whatever minor thing I did to them…
It’s a ticky-washy thing…it’s what friends and family do…they forgive us and we forgive them…on a regular basis…

 

[on_the_hill]

Regrets–I’ve had a few. But then again, too few to mention.

I lived life with a lot of regrets. Coulda, woulda, shoulda. The best advice is to do the best you can in similar situations in the future so as not to repeat the regrets.

 

[Sunlight]

This is general, but how do you deal with thinking about things you really wish you had done differently and wish you could go back and do over but will never get a second chance to do?

This is the story of my life. I am still trying to figure out a way to deal with regret with so many things.