Dealing With Relationships Past

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Hi Guys,
I have recently felt very convicted about how I’ve left some relationships (not romantic relationships) with open ended and unapologized for wrongs on my part. I have reached out to a few of these people and had really positive experiences. I have one left that I have felt this conviction about. Unfortunately, this woman was the last person my husband dated prior to our marriage, and even though it has been many, many years since then, she has shown quite a bit of animosity when I have happened to see her over the last few years. Is apologizing to her for how I left our friendship the moral thing to do, or is it better to just leave it alone?
 
I think it would depend, did you do something that warrants an apology on your part? if so, then I would say, yes, you probably should. if not, and she’s just being petty or childish over something unreasonable, then I would say leave it alone. also, even if you did apologize, that doesn’t necessarily mean you are obligated to resume the friendship
 
I would say her response is due to a perceived wrong on her part (she was very offended when my husband and I started our relationship and has allowed that to color any interaction since). The wrong on my part was more internal, mostly being uncharitable in the way I thought of her at the end of our friendship. Perhaps just better to take it to confession, especially since the events were so long ago?
 
She might have been deeply hurt by you leaving your friendship with her. Talking to her would simply bring up all those past emotions and sadness that she took a long time to get over.

You talking to her only serves one purpose, to make you feel better, not her. She was the one that was hurt not you so why are you gonna hurt her more.
 
personally, if that’s the case, if it were me, I would leave it alone, it’s quite unreasonable to think that your ex-boyfriend will never date someone else after you, just simply wish her well in your heart and pray for her, that’s my opinion anyways
 
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