I do not mean to be rude; but I think this whole thing is being blown out of proportion for many reasons. As I said before, I’ve been in religious life for a very long time. During my tenure in religious life I have also served as: formator, seminary professor, postulancy director, spiritual director for those in formation, vocation director, local superior and superior general. I’m currently a local superior. I can tell you two things.
- There are more men who get into trouble with heterosexual relationsips than homosexaul relationships.
- Homosexual relationships get more air-time because it’s more interesting.
As far as the Holy Father’s guidance, all that I can say is that it works for people with heterosexual and homosexual attractions as long as the person is committed to a celibate life. I don’t buy into the “priests and brothers with SSA are not good role models for other men or it’s a disorder, therefore these people should be banned, regardless of what the pope says.”
First of all, no priest or brother has any business telling anyone whether he likes vanilla or chocolate. Unless the person tells, the average person would never know. A person who has sexual integrity does not share this kind of information with anyone except his confessor, spiritual director and his therapist. Any priest or brother who talks about his sexual feelings, to any one, is a very poor role model, even if he’s straight. Sexual intregrity demands that we show self-respect and respect for the gift of our sexuality. Therefore, we do not wave it like a banner.
Second, the term disorder is used here in a very different manner that we use it in everday language. In philosophy, anything that is contrary to natural law is disordered. The Church is not using it to say that the person is sick. In fact, the Church believes that no one knows the etiology of same-sex attractions and we may never know. She only knows that it is a cross for many people. However, she also says that such people are called to chastity. Therefore, if a person with SSA is called to chastity and God wishes that person to live that chastity in a religious order or a diocesan seminary, who are we to tell God what to do? The Church herself believes that people with SSA can live chaste lives, otherwise she would not say that they are called to celibate chastity. The Church does not place demands on people that they cannot meet. If she believed that a person with SSA could not be celibate, she would state that the act between such persons is not moral culpable, because there is not way that the person can do anything else. But this is not what she says. She says that these persons are called to celibate chastity. Therefore, she believes that they can do it.
In conclusion, the poe is correct in saying that those who have “deep seated” tendencies have to be excluded, not everyone. Because he believes what the Church teaches on the matter, that people with SSA can be celibate/chaste. The ones to be excluded are those who are not celibate, because they are entrenched in this behavior. As I said above, these rules already existed for heterosexual people.
By the way, the Church does not admit anyone to religious life or the seminary who has no sexual attractions. The reason is simple. A person who has no sexual attractions usually lacks the capacity for empathy. The absence of sexual attractions can often be a sign of indifference toward others and too much focussing on self. That kind of person cannot deal with other in a manner that is wholesome and fraternal.
Those are my two cents on the matter. But they come from my personal experience forming others and heading religious houses.
Fraternally,
Br. JR, OSF
