Detraction at therapist's

[Babinicz]

So supposedly when someone had a meeting with his therapist and then he had to speak about his problems and this involved talking about things that not everybody should know. Like how parents act, treat their child. I think its not good to talk about it to anyone. On the other hand, talking about it is relieving. I dont know. Its not my parents fault that I have problems with myself. Why would I think so? It would be so ungrateful of me.

 

[Tis_Bearself]

We can’t really talk about therapy. It’s a matter between the person and their therapist. A person should be able to express themselves honestly to a therapist in order to get help.

 

[Canvas]

A therapist is bound to keep whatever the patient says confidential, so talking about problems one has with another person would not be “detraction”, which is spreading harmful gossip with malicious intent about another.

I think of detraction as “gossip with malice”—meaning you aren’t just gossiping that Sally so and so said “xyz” at the party last weekend, but you are actually trying to damage Sally’s reputation with others for no just or valid reason (an unjust reason being like out of spite or envy or jealousy or revenge. A just reason may be you witnessed Sally rob a bank and you tell the police or testify)

 

[Prodigal_Son]

It’s very common for people in therapy to blame themselves for everything, and carefully guard the reputations of the people who have hurt them in the past. You can’t heal that way. Saying how someone hurt you is not detraction in this sort of case. It’s also not ungrateful.

 

[Prodigal_Son]

What would be ungrateful is failing to care for yourself: the person your parents worked so hard to help. It would be ironic to hurt yourself further in an attempt to protect the people who have for so long wanted you strong and healthy.

 

[LawyersGunsAndMoney]

Talking about something with a therapist is not detraction. You should be open and honest with them.