DH is an alcoholic - now what?

[JohnMPhilomena]

How about giving him a chance to correct his behavior before you throw him out? I would confront him (without a letter) and lay it on the line that he needs help and the abusive behavior needs to stop. I think he should be given the chance to agree to go to AA and correct his behavior without losing his family first.

I do not agree with telling friends and others that he is an alcoholic before you’ve given him a chance to correct the situation.

That being said, only you can assess how dangerous the situation is, and you are obligated to protect yourself and your children.

Good luck. I’m praying for you.

John Marie Philomena

 

[monicatholic]

How about giving him a chance to correct his behavior before you throw him out? I would confront him (without a letter) and lay it on the line that he needs help and the abusive behavior needs to stop. I think he should be given the chance to agree to go to AA and correct his behavior without losing his family first.

and the kids shouldn’t be anywhere nearby and you should probably be at the counselor’s when this conversation happens.

and don’t do/ say it if you don’t mean it.

as for the friends knowing, that’s the least of anyone’s problems isn’t it? someone had already mentioned: the friends probably already know.

 

[rubycanoe]

what I like about al-anon is they do not give advice. they do say attend for six months before making a major decision like getting a divorce. I recommend going to al-anon. I need to go back myself, it really helps. I would read all the AA and al-anon info. you can get ahold of and attend meetings before you decide to do anything. I am also married to a functioning alcoholic. Compared to some of the stories I hear from people married to non-alcoholics he seems like a nice guy. All alcoholics are not the same. Anyways I wish you peace and love and hope.