Did anyone not want to talk to you anymore because of your beliefs?

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so I was talking to this cute girl hoping to develop some kind of friendship or maybe more but when I told her im pro life and catholic she became hostile and expressed her anger for religious people and doesn’t want to talk to me anymore. I felt hurt and overwhelmed, did anyone stopped communicating because of differences of believes?
 
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I am a bit puzzled. Why would you talk about being religious and pro-life with a cute girl that you just met? Usually you need to build some kind of trust and relationship before talking about controversial and very personal topic. It could come across as preachy or awkard. Next time try to talk about the weather or your favorite food :sunglasses:Anyway, the way she reacted is very intolerant and rude. Just let her go, from somebody with that attitude I see potential only for more hurt and troubles.
 
Did you ask her why she had that reaction? It’s difficult to talk to someone if you don’t know why they hold the positions they do.
 
yea perhaps it was too early or I came across at a wrong way. She mentioned she took or need birth control because of low estrogen levels and that that conversation lead one thing to another. She did seem kinda rude and intolerant.
 
I think perhaps you both came off badly in that exchange. Chalk it up to experience, and move forward.
 
Crazy level of intimate conversation for the just meeting stage, or for opposite sex friends.

Of course, someone who is hostile to Christianity it would be difficult to be friends. My most staunch atheist friend (we’ve been friends for more than 30 years) has never said one hostile thing about my faith. In fact, when I became Catholic he said “if you are going to do religion, that is the most authentic one!”
 
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She mentioned she took or need birth control because of low estrogen levels and that that conversation lead one thing to another. She did seem kinda rude and intolerant.
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You didn’t imply that she shouldn’t be taking the pill, did you?
 
Probably more times then I even know. But about 4 years ago I was talking to a nice girl on Catholicmatch. Very beautiful girl. Lived about 400 miles from me but I decided to converse with her. It was election year.

After several weeks of talking and joking and flirting she asked me who ai was voting for. When I told her Trump she expressed her shock at this and told me she could not talk to someone who would vote for Trump and told me that I broke her heart. She told me if he is elected she might get deported, he hates Mexicans (she was Mexican) I told her that I’m Mexican American but I do not think he hated us. She told me I dont understand because I’m not from Mexico. She said she could feel his hatred everytime he spoke.

I explained that even if he did hate us, I can’t vote for a Democrat because they are pro choice and wanted to allow late term abortions up to just before birth. She said “they wont allow that” I hope she remembered saying that when they in fact did pass that law allowing it.

After the second time she told me in this conversation that she just intends to stop talking to me I decided she was just not going to change her mind or listen to reason so I respectfully said goodbye.

I dont think she was a liberal. She was just afraid of being deported. Perhaps she was a illegal who knows?
 
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I’ve gotten crap about it, but as far as I know, I haven’t been rejected by it (unless somebody I barely knew stopped talking to me and I never realized).
 
When I started to go to church more,my friends kind of started to tease me about it… but they’d tease me if I stared to do anything, they like to tease. Eventually, they started to respect that I’m going to church more… then I found out how many of my friends do believe in God and we talk about Him more so it was for the good.

They do try to educate me about being Catholic for the positive and negative but to me that’s just like the message board… I listen and learn.
 
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It strikes me as strange that she let you know she’s “on the pill,” or whatever, upon your first meeting. I think you were the winner in this particular situation!
 
It sure saved a lot of your time and hers. Bonus.
Saying your Catholic and pro-life is a great way to weed out the haters. Now you know!
The great thing is that not everybody thinks like she does.
 
I’ve had a person fly off the handle at me because I don’t love Trump. I had a gal get very over defensive when a group of us began discussing what church’s we go to and I said I don’t because I don’t understand God belief…she started ranting how “I’m just trying to put Christianity down and she loves her church and I have no right to condemn her for it”…huh, what? I looked at her and said I was just stating my opinion and had no problem with her beliefs. The others just stared at her like…where’d that come from?

People often jump to conclusions or are extremely sensitive on certain topics…usually due to past experiences. The gal that way over reacted to my comment on God belief obviously had some past experience with an anti religious person. I don’t know when or whom it was but it was a sore spot for her. My Trump loving person just couldn’t believe that everyone else doesn’t love him, too. I certainly don’t hate him but I don’t think he’s the end all be all that she did.

People get triggered and once it happens, it seems to ruin any chance for friendship…it shouldn’t, but it does! Sad…
 
Yeah, I’ve noticed that folks that I believe owe merlots of money tend not to want to talk to to me

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She told me if he is elected she might get deported,
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Go back another election, and our receptionist told us that she agreed with Romney on pretty much everything, but was afraid he would have her deported.

She was born here in the US.

Great translator, but . . . .
 
it wasn’t our first conversation we met before and talked via text
 
perhaps I screwed up big time there too haha saying along the lines being more natural, honestly I really wasn’t well aware that birth control does more then preventing births
 
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More than I know it when I tell guys that I was once a practicing Wiccan but converted back to Catholicism. I get very strange reactions and some then say well I found a new girl and she is here . I then get blocked or they tend to curse me out. I’m like “well I’m gonna pray for you and I pray you have a blessed life”.
 
I find religious people are ok about talking to me as an unbeliever until the point they realise that I have already considered the points they are making and am therefore unlikely to change my mind (although I would, if presented with evidence). Once they realise that they don’t really want to discuss religion with me, even if I am not challenging it (which I usually am not). So when I run into an interesting religious person I tend to ask questions without identifying my own beliefs. I notice on CAF that people are often suspicious of my interest in religious belief and think I must be here to undermine or change belief, which I am not. I am sure I miss out on perspectives people would share with me otherwise. Perhaps I should have pretended to be a questioning Catholic instead when I signed up 🙂
 
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