did i do the right thing?

[coleraine]

first of, no marriage or kids are involved in this.

Well, me and my buddy were talking to this girl we met one day. she lives in chicago, so we were just sayin hey, we never saw her after we met her. but then my buddy, who has a girlfriend, who loves him very much, (wants to marry and have kids when graduate. not likely but the point is that shes serious) starts talking to her in a sexual manner. see, the girl isnt a bad person. she thought that my frend and his GF were broken up. they were planning to meet and…i need not go further. so, i told the girl. she was shocked but now is not talking to my buddy anymore. he is very mad at me and the term “buddy” might be a stretch at this point. did i do the right thing?

 

[promethius]

first of, no marriage or kids are involved in this.

Well, me and my buddy were talking to this girl we met one day. she lives in chicago, so we were just sayin hey, we never saw her after we met her. but then my buddy, who has a girlfriend, who loves him very much, (wants to marry and have kids when graduate. not likely but the point is that shes serious) starts talking to her in a sexual manner. see, the girl isnt a bad person. she thought that my frend and his GF were broken up. they were planning to meet and…i need not go further. so, i told the girl. she was shocked but now is not talking to my buddy anymore. he is very mad at me and the term “buddy” might be a stretch at this point. did i do the right thing?

Yes, of course you did. No one has a right to lie in order to create a situation boardering on sexual immorality. In fact, regardless of religious aspect RE: sexual mores, no one has a right to lie about their relationship status in order to pursue intimacy with another person. Such behavior is destructive to all parties involved and can lead to disease, pregnancy out of wedlock, etc. The truth is sometimes hard, but everyone deserves to deal with the complete truth.

 

[Caesar517]

You did the right thing. This girl had a right to know.

 

[Mirror_Mirror]

first of, no marriage or kids are involved in this.

Well, me and my buddy were talking to this girl we met one day. she lives in chicago, so we were just sayin hey, we never saw her after we met her. **but then my buddy, who has a girlfriend, who loves him very much, (wants to marry and have kids when graduate. not likely but the point is that shes serious) **starts talking to her in a sexual manner. see, the girl isnt a bad person. she thought that my frend and his GF were broken up. they were planning to meet and…i need not go further. so, i told the girl. she was shocked but now is not talking to my buddy anymore. he is very mad at me and the term “buddy” might be a stretch at this point. did i do the right thing?

Really, your “buddy” loves her, wants to marry and have kids with her? His view of love is slightly twisted. I pray that he learns before he hurts his “girlfriend.”

 

[Soutane]

first of, no marriage or kids are involved in this.

Well, me and my buddy were talking to this girl we met one day. she lives in chicago, so we were just sayin hey, we never saw her after we met her. but then my buddy, who has a girlfriend, who loves him very much, (wants to marry and have kids when graduate. not likely but the point is that shes serious) starts talking to her in a sexual manner. see, the girl isnt a bad person. she thought that my frend and his GF were broken up. they were planning to meet and…i need not go further. so, i told the girl. she was shocked but now is not talking to my buddy anymore. he is very mad at me and the term “buddy” might be a stretch at this point. did i do the right thing?

I think in all fairness that the girl "who loves him"should be informed as to the true character of her "boyfriend"in order that she can assess this loser and not waste any more time on him.When I was a young man i had a beautiful girlfriend who took the relationship WAY more seriously than I did.My own MOTHER suspected the same and confronted me.She said I had no right to lead the young woman on and waste the best years of her life.My mom was absolutely right and I ended the relationship.

 

[Blade_and_Blood]

Yeah, you did the right thing. Hopefully, your friend will actually learn something from the experience.

…Then again, as my English teacher told us, “It’s only adultery when you’re married.” … For the record, I don’t completely agree with it… and he’s agnostic. He’s cool, though.

Ironically Yours, Blade and Blood