Did I do the wrong thing

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There’s this guy I like who offered to drive me home from Youth Group, but I kindly said that there was no need. It’s not even that far for him but I felt like I was being too much of a burden so I said no and now I’m wondering if maybe this was rude of me as I more or less said I’d rather find my own way home when I don’t drive than have him drive me. He is such a nice guy and I don’t want this to have come across as a rejection because I genuinely really like him but my own insecurities got in the way.
 
No, it wasn’t rude. You have the right to refuse a ride from anyone if you’re not comfortable, no matter the distance or the reason. No means no, and if he’s a nice guy like you say he’ll probably respect that and not be resentful.
 
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You weren’t rude, please don’t worry.

Do you suffer from anxiety normally? Or are you overthinking because he’s a guy you like?
 
Sorry I should clarify that he offered to drive me home every time in the future, he wasn’t just asking to take me home once. If he does like me, would this of hurt him?
 
The only person who can tell you whether or not he was hurt by your actions is him. In these situations, different people will perceive your actions and react to them in different ways.
 
He probably offered because he is interested in spending time with you. He offered because it must be apparent that you need a ride. Maybe he wanted to ease any anxiety he thought you might have over constantly having to find a way home.

If he doesn’t make you feel comfortable, don’t accept the ride. But if you do feel comfortable, I don’t see anything wrong with accepting his kind offer.
 
Maybe your instincts were telling you something. Even the nicest people we know, or think we know, can surprise us.
 
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