Differences and Likeness of Catholicism and Mormonism

[AMDGtoo]

what kind of Christ-like example are we setting as Catholics by not attending?

The example that you have set is that you are Catholics and that Catholics cannot celebrate a ceremony of falsehood because of the love of Christ that Catholics feel for our brothers and sisters.

 

[lollieblue]

It seems like you learned something from your mistake. Also, your daughter may now think that her friend may belong to a strange faith and be intolerant toward it. But your are right, christ did set the example. Your daughter would have had a different experience but her friendship with her mormon friend would have become stronger and she would have learned that there are people in this world who have different faiths. True, she would have asked questions, but in the end, this is what life is all about:

Learning to be tolerant and respectful.

What did you tell your daughter when she asked why she couldn’t go?

I didn’t really give her a reason why. I told her that we can’t go but that her friend could come over to play after school on Monday. At the time I was unsure of what to say so I avoided the reasons. I did the same thing in response to her friends mom. I said that we can’t come but would love to get the girls to play this week.

I know this will come up again since this is my daughter’s good friend. I think I must prepare myself in what to say.

Thanks for your comment.

 

[lollieblue]

The example that you have set is that you are Catholics and that Catholics cannot celebrate a ceremony of falsehood because of the love of Christ that Catholics feel for our brothers and sisters.

I understand where you are coming from but I don’t know how to explain this to her mom without being rude and possibly losing a friendship. I doubt she will ask me why we didn’t come but what might you say if you were in my position?

 

[zaffiroborant]

I understand where you are coming from but I don’t know how to explain this to her mom without being rude and possibly losing a friendship. I doubt she will ask me why we didn’t come but what might you say if you were in my position?

Are you worried about your daughters friendship with the little girl or yours with the mother? There’s really no reason for the mother to expect you to explain the situation. She extended an invitation, you (or your daughter) were unable to attend. You had other plans that day nothing more to say.

 

[AMDGtoo]

I doubt she will ask me why we didn’t come but what might you say if you were in my position?

If asked (as you said perhaps she won’t, unless she is actively looking to play the “woe is me” card), you could say that “Something important came up.” (BTW that is the truth–that “something important” that came up was your Faith.) You know that you can “stand your ground” without being offensive, and you really don’t “owe” anyone an explanation.

 

[twopekinguys]

It would be rude for the mother to ask the reason you couldn’t attend, no matter how politely she may ask.

She made an invitation, you polietely declined, that should be the end of it.

 

[RC_Matt]

I understand where you are coming from but I don’t know how to explain this to her mom without being rude and possibly losing a friendship. I doubt she will ask me why we didn’t come but what might you say if you were in my position?

If your daughter’s friend asks your daughter why she didn’t attend, the answer is: “mother said no.”

If the mother asks you, and I hope she would have better manners than to do that, just explain that your daughter is still learning about her own faith and you don’t want her to become confused with details of other worship traditions until she is father along in CCD and can understand the differences. These are children, it’s not the same thing as not attending a wedding or funeral.

You sound like you’re worried that you did something wrong, and you did not; I would have done the same thing, as would have my parents. When I was growing-up, my best friend was my Baptist next-door neighbor. Our parents had become very close friends too (and still are). I was not invited to his baptism, nor was he invited to my first Communion; both set of parents had too much respect for each other, and for each others’ faiths, than to create awkward situations.

 

[why_me]

I understand where you are coming from but I don’t know how to explain this to her mom without being rude and possibly losing a friendship. I doubt she will ask me why we didn’t come but what might you say if you were in my position?

I would tell her the truth: you heard strange things about mormonism and were afraid. Tell her that you are a practicing catholic and devout. Then, tell your friend that you are sorry for the judgementalism and you have regrets about your decision and that you have learned your lesson to be more open-minded. Do it with love and all will be fine. Perhaps I would tell her this even if she doesn’t ask but she seems a little strange about your decision.

Mormons like cookies…bake her some cookies or a nice cake for her daughters baptism.

 

[AMDGtoo]

judgementalism

Not judgementalism, perhaps “discerning”. And BTW the Scriptures tell us to be descerning.

The point is: you have nothing to be “sorry” for. Don’t bother to bring it up.

 

[Jerusha]

Not judgementalism, perhaps “discerning”. And BTW the Scriptures tell us to be descerning.

The point is: you have nothing to be “sorry” for. Don’t bother to bring it up.

Because if you bother to bring it up, you will be labeled anti-Mormon, and the girls’ friendship will be over.

 

[AMDGtoo]

Because if you bother to bring it up, you will be labeled anti-Mormon, and the girls’ friendship will be over.

I keep forgetting about that truth. And of course you know that when you are labeled anti-Mormon, your own friendship with your neighbor will be over as well plus your daughter will not be treated very well.

 

[rich123456]

What a sad and miserable advice!

zerinus

Coming out of Mormonism I would say that was doctor Laura like advice. No need to hurt them, just protect the child.

I moved to Utah 8 years ago and sent my oldest ahead to my sisters who is Mormon. They all tried to tell him about JS behind me and my wifes back knowing she (my wife) was Catholic, that my son was Catholic. I became Catholic the same year. You really have to be careful.

If they can learn the Catholic faith at a young age this is very good. It may not see them through but as they get older this is where it will help. I know many Catholics here in Utah that became Mormon then came back home after learning their theology. As long as they know the theology of Christianity they will know the difference. One of the most important things they need to know is that God is Creator, we are Created. That Jesus has first place over even our families. I tell my children that I will fail them at times, but Jesus never will. He is different than a human father. His love is un conditianl as He is love itself. These things will help
God Bless
Rich
www.utahmission.com

 

[RebeccaJ]

Coming out of Mormonism I would say that was doctor Laura like advice. No need to hurt them, just protect the child.

I moved to Utah 8 years ago and sent my oldest ahead to my sisters who is Mormon. They all tried to tell him about JS behind me and my wifes back knowing she (my wife) was Catholic, that my son was Catholic. I became Catholic the same year. You really have to be careful.

If they can learn the Catholic faith at a young age this is very good. It may not see them through but as they get older this is where it will help. I know many Catholics here in Utah that became Mormon then came back home after learning their theology. As long as they know the theology of Christianity they will know the difference. One of the most important things they need to know is that God is Creator, we are Created. That Jesus has first place over even our families. I tell my children that I will fail them at times, but Jesus never will. He is different than a human father. His love is un conditianl as He is love itself. These things will help
God Bless
Rich
www.utahmission.com

Yeah, here in Utah, the Mormons are always targeting Catholic children. Handing out Book of Mormons outside Catholic schools. Constantly asking Catholic children to Mormon church things.

They only have one goal, and that is to convert your child away from the truth. I wouldn’t let my daughter go to a Mormon baptism, or anything else Mormon, unless I went with her.

 

[lollieblue]

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If your daughter’s friend asks your daughter why she didn’t attend, the answer is: “mother said no.”

If the mother asks you, and I hope she would have better manners than to do that, just explain that your daughter is still learning about her own faith and you don’t want her to become confused with details of other worship traditions until she is father along in CCD and can understand the differences. These are children, it’s not the same thing as not attending a wedding or funeral.

I really like this answer the best (if any discussion comes up) because it’s true. I don’t want my daughter to get confused about what Baptism means to us as Catholics. After all she is learning all about this in her religious ed class this Fall and BTW I am teaching her class of 2nd graders and learning quite a bit myself about our beautiful faith. I do think it’s good to focus on being kind and gentle with folks of a different faith and pray that someday they’ll come around by our example rather than being pushy and possibly pushing them away in the process.

Wouldn’t you all agree?

 

[Ruthie]

*I do think it’s good to focus on being kind and gentle with folks of a different faith and pray that someday they’ll come around by our example rather than being pushy and possibly pushing them away in the process.

Wouldn’t you all agree?*

Yes! Charity is, after all, one of the three cardinal virtues…

Ruthie