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My In-laws bought my brother-in-law a business when he was in his 20s in California. He worked this business under the direction of my father in law for 25 years until it failed when the economy failed. My father-in-law died trying to bring that business back up to provide an income to my brother-in-law.
My mother-in-law convinced her son to move to Texas where we live to get on his feet.
He lived the first year with her in an apartment and she paid his way. He only had his clothes and truck to his name.
He met his girlfriend and she let him stay with her the past two years.
During that time, my mother-in-law has moved in with us, my wife and two teen boys.
My brother-in-law has been living with his girlfriend without even attempting to apply for a job once since he moved here. My mother-in-law has been giving him money to pay for expenses but she is on a fixed income after my father-in-law passed.
My brother-in-law was told by his girlfriend months ago she was going to evict him if he did not get a job. He did not take her serious until August then he asked us if he can move in temporarily. We told him he had to get a job and it would only be for two months. He agreed.
He never got a job and continued to live with his girlfriend, while receiving money from my mother-in-law, until she had enough and kicked him out.
He is now at our doorstep asking for us to let him stay.
He has been taken care of by his parents his entire life. He has never held down a real job except for the military when he got out of high school. He has always taken from people and never really given. He is a great guy and a pleasure to be around. He is a nice guy but always has an excuse for why he does not get a job.
My wife is on disability and half of my income is gone because she cannot work. I am already supporting my mother-in-law in addition to my wife and boys. If we let him in he will sit on my sofa and do nothing. That is his pattern.
I am going to tell him he cannot stay until he gets a full-time job. This will mean he will be homeless until that time. My wife has agreed to go with any decision I make. I think he will never land on his feet if he is always take care of by others. This is not a matter of helping, I believe I would be an enabler, like my in-laws, if I let him in my home.
I prayed on this and I am the type of person who normally would say, “Sure stay with us” even though I may not like it.
Am I being too harsh?
My mother-in-law convinced her son to move to Texas where we live to get on his feet.
He lived the first year with her in an apartment and she paid his way. He only had his clothes and truck to his name.
He met his girlfriend and she let him stay with her the past two years.
During that time, my mother-in-law has moved in with us, my wife and two teen boys.
My brother-in-law has been living with his girlfriend without even attempting to apply for a job once since he moved here. My mother-in-law has been giving him money to pay for expenses but she is on a fixed income after my father-in-law passed.
My brother-in-law was told by his girlfriend months ago she was going to evict him if he did not get a job. He did not take her serious until August then he asked us if he can move in temporarily. We told him he had to get a job and it would only be for two months. He agreed.
He never got a job and continued to live with his girlfriend, while receiving money from my mother-in-law, until she had enough and kicked him out.
He is now at our doorstep asking for us to let him stay.
He has been taken care of by his parents his entire life. He has never held down a real job except for the military when he got out of high school. He has always taken from people and never really given. He is a great guy and a pleasure to be around. He is a nice guy but always has an excuse for why he does not get a job.
My wife is on disability and half of my income is gone because she cannot work. I am already supporting my mother-in-law in addition to my wife and boys. If we let him in he will sit on my sofa and do nothing. That is his pattern.
I am going to tell him he cannot stay until he gets a full-time job. This will mean he will be homeless until that time. My wife has agreed to go with any decision I make. I think he will never land on his feet if he is always take care of by others. This is not a matter of helping, I believe I would be an enabler, like my in-laws, if I let him in my home.
I prayed on this and I am the type of person who normally would say, “Sure stay with us” even though I may not like it.
Am I being too harsh?
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