Dilemma over relative funeral

[UA28]

Hi all. Long time lurker, but finally made an account as I’m struggling with a decision to be made. My apologies if this post is not in the correct forum or not appropriate for CA.

Sadly one of my aunts passed away this past week. She has been sick for almost my entire life (20+ years) and we had been somewhat expecting this soon. I currently live 2 hours away by plane (travel cost not a inconveniencing factor) and her funeral is scheduled for this coming weekend. Coincidentally, my mother will be in my town the same weekend for work and we had already planned to spend the weekend together.

I am very conflicted with what I should do, as I believe both to be important, to be there for my family, but also to spend time with my mother, as we don’t see each other very often living states apart. If I stayed in town with my mother, I was planning to attend an additional weekend Mass and offer it up for my aunt.

Any thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated.

 

[CoffeeFanatic]

If it were me, I’d spend time with my mother. Send a nice flower arrangement, call and talk to your aunt’s immediate family to offer condolences, and then have a mass said for your aunt.

 

[Irishmom2]

Hopefully, you will be able to see your mother many more times in your life, but there is only one funeral for your aunt. The fact that you are even asking means you must be torn about your decision. If it were me, I would go to the funeral to show support and comfort for the rest of my aunt’s family.

 

[0Scarlett_nidiyilii]

Mom outranks aunt, under normal circumstances.
That being said.
Can you reschedule with Mom?
I’m assuming your Auntie and mother aren’t from the same side of the family?