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How does one discern to persue matrimony?
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How does one discern to persue matrimony?
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DL82
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I’m not sure you really discern for ‘marriage’ as a concept.
How does one discern to persue matrimony?
Clearly, there are some people who are called to celebacy or called to discern for the priesthood or religious life. I’d say if you’re certain you’re not called to that, then start dating.
People aren’t so much called to marriage as to marry a person. That doesn’t mean there is only one person you are called to marry, but it does mean there has to be a calling there to that specific person.
I think as with other callings, sometimes it happens in a blinding flash that you know this is the girl you’re going to spend your life with (as happened to me
) but sometimes it’s a slow dawning realisation that you want to become more than friends and that you can’t live without her.Don’t go into a dating situation with the mindset that you’re “discerning for marriage” though, and still less that you’ve already discerned and are just looking for the right girl. That will really put people off!
PS - I just realised I assumed you’re a guy. I’m not sure if the advice I’ve given applies equally to a woman discerning a vocation to married life.
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