Discussions

[just_me]

Someone is in initial formation in a religious community. They have some questions about the community’s observance of its constitutions. They would like to be able to discuss these questions with their directress, however, they are somewhat leery. They are worried that it may cause bad light to be shown on some members of the group. Despite this concern, considering such discussion would not be intented to be slandering or anything like that - :ehh: would you think it would be okay for this person to discuss their questions even though it could bring things to light about others that may not be positive? - or how would one handle this situation? Thanks.

 

[Fortiterinre]

In a healthy community this should be easy to do, simply mention it to the directress in a private meeting in a straightforward way. In a less healthy community, this is exactly the sort of thing that starts civil war, but the novice probably needs to discuss it anyway (privately with directress as above) as she is discerning whether or not to request permission to make vows there.

 

[just_me]

Someone is in initial formation in a religious community. They have some questions about the community’s observance of its constitutions. They would like to be able to discuss these questions with their directress, however, they are somewhat leery. They are worried that it may cause bad light to be shown on some members of the group. Despite this concern, considering such discussion would not be intented to be slandering or anything like that - :ehh: would you think it would be okay for this person to discuss their questions even though it could bring things to light about others that may not be positive? - the reluctance to discuss this is not based on fear of the directresses response, but rather on fear that it would be wrong to do so out of respect for other people. How would suggest that the person handle this situation? Thanks.

 

[Fortiterinre]

A straightforward discussion in private sounds best. Every novice needs to be free to ask the questions with which she is wrestling, whether or not peers look bad. If she is prepared to be told that her peers are actually her role models in this case, then she is certainly asking the questions in all humility.