Disobeying Confessor

[Mi_Rose]

As long as my kids lived in my house they could not have people of the opposite sex in the house with no parent there. It is just too tempting. They could be in a car alone going to a date in a public place but that was it because being alone together with my future husband had been terribly tempting for me.
I get her priest’s advice. If that is what she wants in a relationship whether the advice came from the confessional or not she has the right to ask it from you. If you can’t get on board maybe you should think about whether or not you should continue this relationship.

 

[Irishmom2]

To be clear, I accept the rules and strictness because it’s important to her.

It should also be important to you. Will you be as willing to accept them for her when they become more difficult? Like using NFP for instance if you were to get married?

One more thing. It is not a good idea to discuss what you confess and what the priest said, with each other. I know you look at it as discussing, but it could put pressure on her or you to feel you need to disclose things that are private. Quite honestly, the fact that you two already discussed your confessions with one another and had different experiences is already causing trouble or you wouldn’t feel the need to come here for answers.

You really have no idea what your girlfriend actually said in the confessional, only what you think she said or told you she said. And she has no obligation to tell you what she said, no matter how much you think you two discuss things.

 

[Mi_Rose]

Exactly. My kids were told from an early age that if their friends wanted to do something they considered wrong or dangerous they were allowed to use the mom card, as in my mom will kill me. Maybe she has been allowed to use the confessional card. I don’t know but I might if I felt pressured to do things I did not want to do.

 

[Bill6]

It is not Catholic teaching that a confessor’s advice is infallible or always perfect. Discern what your confessors tell you, and pray to God that he may guide you in this.

The Catholic teaching is that, in the Person of Christ, a confessor forgives the sins of those who are truly sorry.

God bless

 

[Bluebright]

The advice was given to your girlfriend, so if you refuse to comply you are leading her into sin. Do you really want to go there?
It seems to me whether you agree with it or not, is immaterial as it’s her advice and to disobey it is leading her to disobedience which is sinful. Of course she has free choice, but if you refuse to consider taking it seriously then you are making it difficult for her. You plan to become one when you marry, so you should make sure to be considering what impact your actions have on her spiritually too, in preparation for this union.

 

[1ke]

Can you please tell me why it’s wrong? I need some help understanding that.

We are called to be chaste in our state in life. “making out” isn’t appropriate for those who are not married. The sixth commandment calls is to reserve these sorts of physical expressions for marriage.

So, it is a sin against the sixth commandment.