My first “gut feeling” is it should be parents, then godparents, then confirmation sponsor, so I agree with the above. Throw in the fact that the confirmation sponsor is the brother, I think it would be entirely appropriate. Two questions for ZemD, however:A confirmation sponsor is something like a baptismal godfather. Yes, I think that it’s correct to consider one’s responsibilities as a confirmation sponsor (and baptismal godfather).
A future question that will naturally and inevitably come up would be whether or not you and your husband would attend the wedding, so somewhere along the line you and your husband will be discussing the situation.Again, I will only bring this up with my husband if he is under a moral obligation to do so, because if he wanted to have this discussion on his own it would have already happened.
It’s up to the diocese where the wedding will be taking place what they allow - some diocese will allow almost anything with very little justification required, while others don’t allow weddings outside of a sacred place at all.Has anyone successfully obtained a dispensation from being married in a catholic church? If you don’t mind could you share how you went about obtaining it and your circumstances that qualified you for it?