Distracted and overwhelming attraction

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Blessings to you all!

I have recently found myself attracted to a consecrated woman. I believe this person has not made final vows and I’m single.

I honestly want what is God’s will, what is right in her life and the best for both of us.

To be perfectly honest I would like to date this person and tell them but obviously that would be completely inappropriate.

I’m not sure how to manage this and my emotions practically outside of prayer. I realise I should find a good spiritual director and discuss with a counselor.

Do I limit contact? One post from a nun on a blog faced the situation years ago and was told to embrace the relationship and not avoid it. I feel like I’m running away but going crazy.

I suspect she may feel the same way or at least knows.

Outside of this, and in the meantime does anyone have any suggestions or ideas? I’m sure someone out there has experienced and moved past this before?
 
I suspect she may feel the same way or at least knows.
This sounds like projection.

Attraction is attraction. It is what it is. It doesn’t have to be acted upon. My advice would be to limit contact if that will help you to avoid thinking about it. But regardless you have to respect her state in life and not interfere.

Go back and re-read your own post, but change what you’ve said about her to be “engaged,” rather than a consecrated religious. You’ll have your answer then.

I have to ask: do you even know this person? You don’t seem to know a lot about this person. Everything you’ve said seems kind of peripheral. You aren’t aware of whether she’s in final vows or not, and everything else you’ve said seems to be about you, and not her. You could barely know her at all and still write this post. It sounds like infatuation from a distance.

-Fr ACEGC
 
Thank you @edward_george1 that is indeed helpful.

I had in fact asked myself, what if this was a married person? It wouldn’t be an option! As stated, of course I wouldn’t interfere in her state of life.

You’ve hit the nail on the head, I know this person, but not well. It’s good for someone else to have an objective look regarding infatuation - I wasn’t sure. As for Projection, this didn’t even cross my mind. I will follow this up with someone as I feel that’s important.

I have a number of psychological issues, especially around anxiety/aspergers so this probably doesn’t help my cause in just wanting to share my emotions!

Bless you!
 
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