Divorced and bound for Hell

[Jmiller1]

I am a divorced Catholic and am remarried (invalidly ) outside of the Church. I have researched and understand anulments and the reasons for them.Prior to being remarried I met with my priest and filed a completed package with him. He agreed that I had good grounds for an annulment I took a long and prayerful time to answer all of the questions. I then met with him and submitted it for approval. That was about 3 years ago and he has not done anything with it as far as I know. I followed up after 2 years waiting with a letter and did not receive a response. As time passed I met a Catholic woman and remarried. Note that she is also a divorced catholic. I suppose I went through with it even knowing that it would place me in a constant state of mortal sin because I was a little disillusioned by the process. Now there is the complexity of her and I both receiving anulments but I digress because that is not really the question.
I hate long posts but here I am writing one. Why would someone(speaking of myself) still maintain a relationship with Christ and his Church knowing that he is in mortal sin and is bound for Hell. It is difficult to reconcile.I still go to Mass,pray the rosary and have a very real intimate prayer life with my savior.Yet, I am going to Hell. I pray for understanding regarding this daily. Im looking for more than the simple answer that Me and my new spouse should both get anulments and remarry in the Church. Yes I do agree that this is the path but neither of us have the promise that we will be here tomorrow and if God decided to take either of us in the interm we would be in mortal sin and by definition go to hell.If I am outside of Gods grace that is not in a state of grace then how does his spirit still live in my heart. Or are these just old habits and in reality I don’t have a real relationship with Christ?

 

[Lifeisbeautiful3]

Love the sinner. Hate the sin.

A practicing homosexual shouldn’t stop going to church and maintaining a relationship with Jesus.

Maybe your posting here today is the first step toward some healing. You know what the Catholic Church says. Not it’s a question of doing your best to choose Him over sin.

 

[TK421]

@Jmiller1

If you live together as brother and sister until when/if the annulments go through, you may confess any mortal sins on your conscience and then freely receive Communion.

Peace.

 

[CaptainPrudeman]

You have a relationship with Christ, but you’ve cut yourself off from Grace through repeated mortal sins. At first glance, it’s pretty shameful that your priest has done nothing with this pressing matter. It’s definitely time to follow things up. Set up a meeting with your priest and tell him everything about your situation: Your divorce, disillusionment with the annulment process, and your remarriage. Be open to his advice. Be sure to talk with your wife about the situation as well, so you can see to her own annulment.

God loves you and wants more than anything to be fully united with you. It is God’s will that this situation be resolved in whatever way frees you and your wife from mortal sin. There’s really no reason to stave off the annulment process anymore. It’s your responsibility to do well by yourself and your spouse and take the necessary actions to restore your souls to grace. If nothing else, do you not want to do everything possible to make sure your wife goes to heaven?

Pray for the strength to go through with whatever He wills to happen, and start the process asap. I will pray for you and your wife. God bless and guide you in this time.

 

[Vico]

… Why would someone (speaking of myself) still maintain a relationship with Christ and his Church knowing that he is in mortal sin and is bound for Hell. …

Assuming that what you said about yourself it true, that you are in a state of mortal sin, then remember that the Holy Trinity gives actual grace for conversion prior to one obtaining sanctifying grace. One can be without charity, yet still have faith and hope.

 

[TheLittleLady]

Contact the Tribunal at your Diocese and ask about the status. If there is no status, ask for an advocate.

Live as brother and sister until you know you are both free to marry.

 

[twf]

Exactly. I remember one time when I was badly in need of confession during the lockdown. I wasn’t sure how to go about it and I was nervous - no public Masses or confession times at the time. I walked to the local parish, and moments after I stepped onto the grounds, Father came out and said “Hi Tyler, are you looking for confession?” That’s the Grace you’re talking about in action.

 

[Jmiller1]

Yes,
I believe you are correct. It was difficult to make this post.I have been praying that God would lead me to help,perhaps finding this forum was by his divine guidance

 

[Jmiller1]

Thanks for your response

 

[Jmiller1]

Thanks for your response,
I agree with all that you say and there does need to be a sense of urgency because I have been living with a dark cloud over my head and am ready for it to be lifted.BTW. I am just now reading the pop up on the right sorry for the individual replies. I am new at Forums.

 

[Gorgias]

@Jmiller1

If you live together as brother and sister until when/if the annulments go through, you may confess any mortal sins on your conscience and then freely receive Communion.

Peace.

If your pastor offers this as an option. It’s not an ‘automatic’ thing. He has to make a prudential judgment that it will not create the sin of scandal in the community.

 

[SeekSalvation]

Truth is you need to bring your case back to your Priest or the Archdiocese Office of Tribunal & Canonical Services. None of us know your exact circumstances, nor should we, and can give you prudent advise. With that said, TYPICALLY (please talk with your Priest about this advise first) you can place yourself in a state of grace with God by living with your wife as Brother and Sister, go to confession, and confess your sins, and receive communion till your annulments are resolved.