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I need your opinions on this sad story, but I need to provide some background first so bear with me.
My ex-husband has suffered mental illness for many years. He has not worked in a few years, has a porn addiction, does not believe in God, lived with woman after woman, and finally after the last woman kicked him out, he disappeared all together.
This happened back in March on my son’s 8th birthday. Before his disappearing, he spent much time with the boys daily. He took care of them before and after school and the boys adore him (for the fun loving 10 yr that he acts like).
This man has not contacted the kids since March and has only emailed me 2 times with brief info. He has told me he moved out of town and is working on his problems. He does want to talk to the boys, but I am afraid of the ramifications on their emotions if he talks to them and then stops calling to fade away once again.
The boys are emotional train wrecks because of this. My 8yr old has developed an ulcerated stomach and the 11 yr refuses to talk of dad.
Since this whole thing, there has been a silver lining from God, in that we have all been moved closer to our faith. I make the boys attend weekly Adoration and we pray daily for dad, his health, and for conversion.
NOW FOR MY QUESTION…this week at Adoration, my 11yr old found a Novena to St. Jude sitting in the pew. He gave it to me and said he wanted to pray this for his Dad. Then my 8yr old decided he wanted say it also and pray that he could see his dad again.
I explained to them that while the Novena says it “has never been known to fail”, I discussed that God sometimes does not answer prayers the way we want them to be answered. I gave examples for them to understand.
Meanwhile, just yesterday, I received an email from my ex asking if he could call the boys. Nothing more, that’s all he said. Now I thought the timing of this to be odd.
MY QUESTION… Do I help out the novena by emailing my ex back and ask him to call them on the night the novena is supposed to end. If my ex follows through with this (questionable if he will) then the boys will be happy the novena worked and not disappointed.
OR DO I LEAVE THIS TO GOD? I would hate for them to not get the answer they are praying for – but God has a plan.
Thanks for your help - our hearts ache over this.
My ex-husband has suffered mental illness for many years. He has not worked in a few years, has a porn addiction, does not believe in God, lived with woman after woman, and finally after the last woman kicked him out, he disappeared all together.
This happened back in March on my son’s 8th birthday. Before his disappearing, he spent much time with the boys daily. He took care of them before and after school and the boys adore him (for the fun loving 10 yr that he acts like).
This man has not contacted the kids since March and has only emailed me 2 times with brief info. He has told me he moved out of town and is working on his problems. He does want to talk to the boys, but I am afraid of the ramifications on their emotions if he talks to them and then stops calling to fade away once again.
The boys are emotional train wrecks because of this. My 8yr old has developed an ulcerated stomach and the 11 yr refuses to talk of dad.
Since this whole thing, there has been a silver lining from God, in that we have all been moved closer to our faith. I make the boys attend weekly Adoration and we pray daily for dad, his health, and for conversion.
NOW FOR MY QUESTION…this week at Adoration, my 11yr old found a Novena to St. Jude sitting in the pew. He gave it to me and said he wanted to pray this for his Dad. Then my 8yr old decided he wanted say it also and pray that he could see his dad again.
I explained to them that while the Novena says it “has never been known to fail”, I discussed that God sometimes does not answer prayers the way we want them to be answered. I gave examples for them to understand.
Meanwhile, just yesterday, I received an email from my ex asking if he could call the boys. Nothing more, that’s all he said. Now I thought the timing of this to be odd.
MY QUESTION… Do I help out the novena by emailing my ex back and ask him to call them on the night the novena is supposed to end. If my ex follows through with this (questionable if he will) then the boys will be happy the novena worked and not disappointed.
OR DO I LEAVE THIS TO GOD? I would hate for them to not get the answer they are praying for – but God has a plan.
Thanks for your help - our hearts ache over this.