Do I tell my brother & his girlfriend.. no room at the inn?

[Giannawannabe]

Celia:

I would say just set up the plans to have them sleep in different rooms, sleeping bags for the kids, whatever you have to do - and next time they call or when they get there just show them their sleeping arrangements and leave it at that. Don’t get into it too much - if they say, “well why don’t we just stay in the same room” just smile warmly and say, “Oh, that’s not necessary. We have it all worked out already.” They may just drop it there. If they argue further, tell them that might lead to questions from the kids that you don’t want to answer because you’ve always told them that only married adults sleep in the same room, so you don’t want to cause confusion. They should get it after that.

I would think that most people would expect it though. When I had to stay at my now husband’s parents, it was in separate rooms. And when he stayed at our family’s apartment, he slept on the couch. We didn’t ever think they would let us do otherwise.

Good luck!

I think this would be how I would handle it. :yup:

 

[migurl]

I agree that you should have him stay at your house, it sounds like a good atmosphere for him and his gf to be in. I’m not sure surprising him with the seperate rooms is a good idea. I think it might be better to let him know that they will be sleeping in seperate rooms so that he can tell his gf and they can be prepared, it might be a little rude to not inform him of this. But I may be wrong.