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PatienceAndLove
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I think vocatio meant that in the grand scheme of human development, dating is a rather new idea.
To the OP: take a deep breath and focus on school. Dating and what-not will come later.
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To the OP: take a deep breath and focus on school. Dating and what-not will come later.
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nmoerbeek
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You should look into St Edward the Confessor.
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cjcapta
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Why, who is he?
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nmoerbeek
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He was a Saint who had a celibate marriage.
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LongingForLight
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Yep!!! Children do sooo much for their parents. They are a great source of holiness for us, as well as joy and love. Yes, they are a lot of work too, but all of the greatest blessings in life are.
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Mattapoisett64
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I never knew that. What I *do *know is that his feast day is October 13th. My birthday is October 13th. That explains a lot . . . . .
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budgie2
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If you do not wish to have sex it might be better for you to consider not getting married in the first place as that is not fair on your husband or wife. I do not know the extent of your health difficulties but do you think it would be a matter of conscience whether or not you would look for a husband or wife? You might be better off asking a parish priest than asking a forum as we don’t know you personally. If your health difficulties don’t greatly impede your ability to look after children then you may have to work with your husband or wife and put your family in God’s hand. But yes you do need to have sex if you’re married.
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cjcapta
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How does that explain a lot?
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former_Catholic
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At 15.5 you need to know that married couples want to have sex with one another; it goes with the whole wanting to marry one another deal.
If one does and the other doesn’t want to have sex and potentially have children, they have got serious marriage problems. The Church endeavors to prevent serious marriage problems and writes its rules accordingly about marriage to try to prevent serious marriage problems. The rules are written for average normally healthy people.
If one spouse or the other has got serious health problems and it is of grave concern not to have children, of course they do not have to have sex.
If you are not married and you have got serious health problems and it is of grave concern not to have children,* anybody who would sign up to marry you must very fully understand and accept all of that and live with that every day 24/7 as a permanent condition. The Church has to seriously evaluate such situations and your mutual consent and overwhelming commitment to one another in light of that situation in order to bless your marriage. It is an individual case-by-case matter beyond the standard rules.*
As for the question of loving someone, according to Christ, we are supposed to love one another and that means everybody on the face of the earth including our enemies. Loving somebody, even very intensely personally loving somebody and feeling sexual feelings toward somebody does not mean that you marry and try to have children with them or otherwise have sex with them. Marriage and endeavoring to have children with someone, having sex with someone, is an entirely separate and extremely specific case of loving somebody.
If one does and the other doesn’t want to have sex and potentially have children, they have got serious marriage problems. The Church endeavors to prevent serious marriage problems and writes its rules accordingly about marriage to try to prevent serious marriage problems. The rules are written for average normally healthy people.
If one spouse or the other has got serious health problems and it is of grave concern not to have children, of course they do not have to have sex.
If you are not married and you have got serious health problems and it is of grave concern not to have children,* anybody who would sign up to marry you must very fully understand and accept all of that and live with that every day 24/7 as a permanent condition. The Church has to seriously evaluate such situations and your mutual consent and overwhelming commitment to one another in light of that situation in order to bless your marriage. It is an individual case-by-case matter beyond the standard rules.*
As for the question of loving someone, according to Christ, we are supposed to love one another and that means everybody on the face of the earth including our enemies. Loving somebody, even very intensely personally loving somebody and feeling sexual feelings toward somebody does not mean that you marry and try to have children with them or otherwise have sex with them. Marriage and endeavoring to have children with someone, having sex with someone, is an entirely separate and extremely specific case of loving somebody.
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