Do men and women really look at films differently?

[childofmary1143]

I can’t speak for all guys but I do like romance movies. I also like action and drama too. But as a Catholic I don’t like movies that show nudity or sex. Furthermore I wouldn’t endorse a movie that had it.

Now I have noticed that some women don’t seem to mind that. I realize that in all the nudity that I have seen on TV about 99% of it is showing a female. So naturally a woman will have a different perspective on that but say sex scenes which would feature both man and woman should have some effect on both.

I would like to ask both men and women here to share with me their views on this.

 

[bluerose]

Of all the movies I’ve seen (romantic ones, that is) I don’t believe a single one would have suffered from deleting the OSS (Obligatory Sex Scene). Some examples:

“The Notebook”–WAY over the top and completely unnecessary! The romance was far more evident in Noah and Allie’s nursing home scenes than in their younger sex-saturated scenes.

“Titanic”–Oh please. Ask me why I couldn’t wait for the iceberg to show up. All the sex and nudity in that film only served to show how self-absorbed the main characters were.

“Top Gun” (I’m including this because I see this as a romantic film, hubby sees it as an action film)–We could go from Charlie telling Maverick “I just don’t want anyone to know I’ve fallen for you,” and skip the music video for “Take My Breath Away” and go on from there.

I could go on and on. Personally, I’d very much like to see more romantic movies (either comedy or drama) that I would feel comfortable letting my pre-teen son and niece watch… films that don’t equate “love” with sex (especially outside of marriage). Chastity is beautiful, but few film makers are willing to rise to the challenge of showing that. It’s easier just to strip the stars and replace dialogue with a lust sound track.

And for the record, hubby agrees with me!

 

[childofmary1143]

Of all the movies I’ve seen (romantic ones, that is) I don’t believe a single one would have suffered from deleting the OSS (Obligatory Sex Scene). Some examples:

“The Notebook”–WAY over the top and completely unnecessary! The romance was far more evident in Noah and Allie’s nursing home scenes than in their younger sex-saturated scenes.

“Titanic”–Oh please. Ask me why I couldn’t wait for the iceberg to show up. All the sex and nudity in that film only served to show how self-absorbed the main characters were.

“Top Gun” (I’m including this because I see this as a romantic film, hubby sees it as an action film)–We could go from Charlie telling Maverick “I just don’t want anyone to know I’ve fallen for you,” and skip the music video for “Take My Breath Away” and go on from there.

I could go on and on. Personally, I’d very much like to see more romantic movies (either comedy or drama) that I would feel comfortable letting my pre-teen son and niece watch… films that don’t equate “love” with sex (especially outside of marriage). Chastity is beautiful, but few film makers are willing to rise to the challenge of showing that. It’s easier just to strip the stars and replace dialogue with a lust sound track.

And for the record, hubby agrees with me!

Your hubby is a very lucky man:thumbsup:

 

[jmcrae]

I think for women, the “turn on” isn’t from looking at sex, but from how a man makes her feel.

I’m more likely to be “turned on” by a man in a movie taking charge, being in control, and taking care of the other characters in the movie, than by a sex scene in and of itself - I can take it or leave it as far as that goes.

I prefer action films, so the sex scene is usually quite brief - just long enough to set up for something to go horribly wrong, causing the villain to do something really cowardly, and causing the hero to realize that there are people who need saving.

 

[MichaelTDoyle]

I can’t speak for all guys but I do like romance movies. I also like action and drama too. But as a Catholic I don’t like movies that show nudity or sex. Furthermore I wouldn’t endorse a movie that had it.

Now I have noticed that some women don’t seem to mind that. I realize that in all the nudity that I have seen on TV about 99% of it is showing a female. So naturally a woman will have a different perspective on that but say sex scenes which would feature both man and woman should have some effect on both.
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I usually go by that old rule, I know pornography when I see it. If I am watching a series or television show and my eyes start becoming “greedy” it’s time to turn it off or walk out.

I think it is possible to see the beauty of women physically but not turn it into lust, but there’s a point where it becomes lust and right away, turn away.

For me I do not care what the artist’s intent is, it all depends on my reaction to the media and when I get the first sense that it is lust it is time to stop. It’s important to be consciously aware of this, because I don’t think lay Catholics should “burka” themselves or hide from the media, but be a lamp on a hill and by example turn away from those things that lead them to sin. This by action shows an example of how seriously we take our faith and does not hide ourselves from secular life.

I have no clue how women deal with these issues though
2 cents

 

[MyGodAndMyLord]

Yes, men and women look at movies differently.

That being said, that’s a generalization and there will be women who look at movies more the way men do than some men - and there will be men who look more at movies the way women do than some women.

As for nudity and violence in movies, my guess would be that men and women who are devout will have a different perspective on it than those who are not devout whether or not they are Catholics, Jews, Buddhists, Muslims or atheists or something else.