I do experience reverence and decorum in the holy mass. The times when I don’t - the problem is my being busy passing wrong judgement on others or being distracted i.e. I am the problem.
Last year at an event, I was a bit worried because the celebration of the mass was supported by a band, but it was a wonderful mass because the music (including volume) was appropriate and more than 99% of the congregation sang and prayed their hearts out with reverence, decorum and where appropriate with sorrow, repentance and joy throughout.