Do you have memories of the Sisters, too?

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If others have memories - of the assistance that the Sisters, or the Brothers, gave to them -
I invite them to share their own memories. I share my own, below.
I don’t think that I would have any sense of spirituality, whatsoever, had it not been for the Sisters who taught me.

I’m always giving Catholicism a hard time.
Yet it is not fair, [ever indulging *l’esprit critique,] while never averring to the blessings that I did receive.

-the religious, who taught me, gave me a sense of the sacred

-they taught me prayers, to be committed to memory, that I could say - even when the mind and heart are exhausted by grief, in great loss.

-any clarity of expression, in that which I compose, is a direct reflection of their work -
in having taught me how to gather thought, and how to present same, clearly.
Right down to the minutia, in this regard.
[pen, never pencil - no ragged sheet, torn from a notebook.]
This demostrates a lack of respect - for the one correcting the paper, and a lack of self-respect,
that such carelessness would obtain.
Only complete sentences were acceptable.
Don’t ‘crowd’ work on a small area of a page.

All of this training has been of invaluable help to me, over many decades.

In college, one of the Sisters handed back a short essay, that I had written,
on Wuthering Heights, [one of my better efforts] - with an A crossed out, and then
a B crossed out - leaving me with a grade of C, because I had misspelled three words,
in a page and a half of text.
I was annoyed.
If I had known that these were spelled incorrectly, I would have consulted a dictionary -
but I did not at all feel that this was unfair. It surely got the point across.
Misspelled words, on work handed in, is simply unacceptable practice.
I am to be responsible for the entire quality of work turned in.

To this date, I can neither spell, nor punctuate, correctly. [The Sisters tried, mightily,
to teach me, in this regard, but I simply couldn’t wrap my mind around what was being taught.]
If an assignment was due, on a Tuesday morning - it meant Tuesday morning.
The Sisters - from kindergarten through college - were always well prepared for their classes.
They did not ask of me - what they failed to ask of themselves.

Surely students, as all others, learn far more - from example given - than from
mere urgings to meet a certain standard.

And as I was about to flunk the French regents exam, the sister who taught the
French language, confronted me in the school hallway, saying, in a dry tone:
“You know, of course, that you’re going to flunk French.” Copious tears followed,
as I explained to her that I had been spending all my time trying to understand geometry.
Sister told me to go home, to take no books with me, to have a quiet evening, and
to show up, in her classroom, the next day, after school. Sister tutored me, and I did
very well in this exam. She passed away, about 5 years ago, and I had written her a note,
before she died, expressing my gratitude to her, for her kindness to me - telling Sister
how much some knowledge of the French language, had added to my life - as life went forward.

I did look up the spelling of ‘kindergarten,’ ‘minutia,’ and ‘misspelled,’ in writing this. The Sisters would be pleased.

Reward each of these Sisters, God, please. I am grateful to them.

reen12
 
This is the one of the prayers that Sisters taught us, that has never left me.



When another is feeling desperate, des espoir - without hope,
I pray this prayer. I don’t think that the mother of Jesus has much use for a chain-smoker,
who turns the air, blue, on occassion, when aggravated, but I do say this for others, hoping that
my own unlovely attitudes will be set aside, long enough, for the mother of God to listen.

**The Memorare

**Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary,
that never was it known, that anyone - who fled to your protection,
implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother.
To you I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful.
O Mother of the Word incarnate, despise not my petitions,
but, in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen.

reen12
 
yes many memories, all fond. I received a superior education in 12 years with the Adrian Dominicans. Of course a very solid grounding in my faith and history of the Church, and in scripture. Also a far better academic preparation than most of those with whom I entered college at a large state university. Namely I was in a distinct minority because I had been taught the history of Indochina and the background that led to the war in Vietnam. I received the best education a writer could ever have, and the good sisters are responsible for me landing some of my best jobs. Plus I have the example of good women living good lives.
 
I have wonderful memories in the main of nuns and religious sisters and especially those who educated me: The Brown Sisters of St. Joseph (Bl. Mary MacKillop) in primary school and then Dominican nuns in College. Usually my memories creep into my Posts as I forever drift off any thread and its subject:o …so I wont repeat my memories here.
I also have nowadays a close connection with Carmelite and Benedictine enclosed nuns and during the years when I was very ill indeed with Bipolar and completely psychotic and off the planet mindwise, I can in all honesty say that one Carmelite nun in particular, along with the whole community, never abandoned me and continually came to my rescue well and truly over and above, for absolutely sure, the call of any duty. They are all very dear to me still and we retain close contact. I was not really in contact with the Benedictines during those years.

The St. Joseph Sisters taught me to pray and that prayer was much more than rote prayers…and including how I lived my days… and the Dominicans taught me to search and search and search always relentlessly for the truth of matters and to view truth as an unfolding in the days. The Dominican nuns introduced me to Catholic Theology and a love for it which has never abandoned me. They also taught me a love of Scripture. Our College motto was “Veritas” = Latin for “Truth”.

I have one funny tale! I was always very good at religious instruction and in College and my senior years of education our school inspector, Father Gleeson, was scheduled for his yearly visit. Sr. Benignus OP changed my seating from down the back to the very front row as she knew I could be depended on to have the answers.
Father Gleeson duly arrived, inspected our books and then began religious question time. Every question he asked, my hand shot up knowing the answer. Father studiously avoided me for the whole half hour and refused to acknowledge my raised hand to his questions. Then as the half hour was drawing to a close, he looked at me and said “Stand up, young lady” I duly stood up, prepared confidently for anything…I thought!.
“What is your name?”
“Barbara, Father”
“Mmmmm …well, Barbara, do you believe in transubstantiation?”
I was horrified as it sounded like some sort of deadly sin and so replied firmly:
“No, Father, I do not believe in transubstantion”

'YOU ARE A …H E R E T I C! … SIT DOWN!" he near on yelled at me with a hand and extended finger almost on my nose! I later reflected that he was no fool and rather had made a fool of Sr. B OP and her ‘best’ student!

(transubstantiation had not been in our syllabus you see)…but Sr. Benignus was not too happy with me for quite a long time and then insisted that I view The Mass from the old nun’s turn where they used to receive Holy Communion, so I would get it in my head what transubstantiation was all about. I knew what our dear Sr. Benignus could be like if corrected, and so I studiously avoided reminding her that she had never taught us about transubstantiation in the first place, nor was it on the syllabus…though I itched to do so for a long time. That was my first big lesson in holding my tongue even in defense of myself…nor did I make a virtue of necessity:D

Hence I have the unique distinction of being called a heretic by an Archbishop to be. Father Gleeson duly became Archbishop Gleeson and a good friend of mine, although I never reminded him of my distinction from my teen years!😃 …nor has the ‘excommunication’ ever been lifted!:o

Blessings…regards…Barb:)
 
Quoting Reen:
I’m always giving Catholicism a hard time.
So did Galilleo…I am not too sure if it was Galilleo, Reen, and even less sure of the spelling! But often it is criticism that causes a person or group to have to explain itself and in the doing discover that they are not quite spot on and that things need to be corrected…i.e. that the world is not flat!!!😉 …so give us a hard time wherever we proclaim that it is flat, which is probably quite often:thumbsup: I am killing myself laughin here Reen as I am not too sure at all it was Galilleo who first thought that the world was round!:o
…but I am sure you will know what I mean.
Poor Galilleo…he sure was dealt a lousy hand to my mind!
Yet it is not fair, [ever indulging *l’esprit critique,
] while never averring to the blessings that I did receive. Takes a special sort of person methinks to see the faults…and the virtues!!!
To this date, I can neither spell, nor punctuate, correctly.
My punctuation is not too bad if I happen to be concentrating - not too often:o …spelling still lousy, along with the French which would be even worse.
as I explained to her that I had been spending all my time trying to understand geometry.
Oh my goodness, my geometry would only be overtaken by my lousy geology. Studied it for three years (geology) and all I can remember is “soil, subsoil and bedrock” …and wouldn’t know it if I fell over it.
Reward each of these Sisters, God, please. I am grateful to them.
From me too, Lord…please reward them for I am so very grateful.

Blessings and warm regards…Barb:)
 
quote: puzzleannie
yes many memories, all fond. I received a superior education in 12 years with the Adrian Dominicans. Of course a very solid grounding in my faith and history of the Church, and in scripture. Also a far better academic preparation than most of those with whom I entered college at a large state university. Namely I was in a distinct minority because I had been taught the history of Indochina and the background that led to the war in Vietnam. I received the best education a writer could ever have, and the good sisters are responsible for me landing some of my best jobs. Plus I have the example of good women living good lives.
That you were taught by the Dominicans, was surely a blessing.
I had a similar expereince, puzzleannie, when I went to
Manhatten, after graduation. One of my fellows was a
graduate of a ‘name brand’ university. At first, I was awed by
this fact. Yet, as time went on, I realized what a superb education
I had been given, by the Sisters. I could hold my own, and then some,
out in the ‘big, wide world.’ 🙂

quote: puzzleannie
I received the best education a writer could ever have, and the good sisters are responsible for me landing some of my best jobs. Plus I have the example of good women living good lives.
Yes. If soley in the realm of applied logic, we were equipped to
to address material, in mode critique, when necessary, and to express thought clearly.
Thank you for conveying your own memories, puzzleannie.

reen
 
Well, Barb, I threw my back out last night, having lunged to
stand up, while one foot - that I had just put a sock on - was
not firmly planted on the floor. How!! can anyone throw their
back out, while still partially seated. http://bestsmileys.com/nono/9.gif
[Haven’t thrown it out, to this extent, since 1992.]
On my way to one of those walk-in medical facilities,
which is open on Sundays. I suspect that a bit of physical
therapy is in the offing. I will insist in carrying on as if I were
still 40. 😃 Will address the very funny post that you wrote, soonest.

quote: BarbaraTherese
“Mmmmm …well, Barbara, do you believe in transubstantiation?”
I was horrified as it sounded like some sort of deadly sin and so replied firmly:
“No, Father, I do not believe in transubstantion”
http://bestsmileys.com/fainting/1.gif

reens
 
Quoting Reen:
Well, Barb, I threw my back out last night, having lunged to
stand up, while one foot - that I had just put a sock on - was
not firmly planted on the floor. How!! can anyone throw their
back out, while still partially seated. http://bestsmileys.com/nono/9.gif
[Haven’t thrown it out, to this extent, since 1992.]
Hope you are not in too much pain and that things will soon go back to normal, although with a bad back things are never quite normal … one just gets used to it.
You can still put sock’s on!!!:o
On my way to one of those walk-in medical facilities,
which is open on Sundays. I suspect that a bit of physical
therapy is in the offing. I will insist in carrying on as if I were
still 40. 😃 Will address the very funny post that you wrote, soonest.
Although physiotherapy makes me feel far better after, I just hate going to physiotherapists. I hate it! One of those occasions for me when the cure seems worse than the cold. I hope things will fare well for you if you do have therapy and put the back well and truly on the mend again.

quote: BarbaraTherese
“Mmmmm …well, Barbara, do you believe in transubstantiation?”
I was horrified as it sounded like some sort of deadly sin and so replied firmly:
“No, Father, I do not believe in transubstantion”
Reen: http://bestsmileys.com/fainting/1.gif

…I totally agree, Reen. I was so ashamed of myself even as I wanted hotly to lash out at Sr. ‘Biggy’, as we called her fondly, and put the blame on her for not preparing us for such a question and on such an important matter. She was about 4ft 11inches … fast approaching 80 I would think and with skin so worn and frail that she could not go into sunlight at all. She was a wild little Irish Dominican nun and I loved her to pieces! She could command a whole classroom of teenage girls into absolute fearful silence simply by her presence and a look that seemed to bore through one. She hated to be wrong almost as much as I did!:o I still have clear vision of her in my mind leaning right out of the first floor window where her classroom was located, gesturing wildly trying to get some student’s attraction…usually me in hot water again! I would keep my ear out for the raising of the first floor window (very old building) during breaks and then stand directly under it flat against the wall so she couldn’t not see me. In my day, St. Mary’s Dominican College was known as “The St. Trinians of Adelaide”, whereas today it is a very up-market College.

Blessings, Reen, and warm regards…Barb:)
 
My memories don’t extend as far as some of you (who were blessed to attend Catholic schools for your entire education). I only attended parochial school, through 7th grade. And during the last 3 years, it seemed that the number of teaching sisters… had diminished. It was mostly lay teachers, by that time.

Anyway, the sisters who taught us, were the Sisters of St. Joseph of Carondelet (in their beautiful, flowing black and white full habits). And I remember enough, to remember that they were STICKLERS for good behavior. :rolleyes: Especially, when we went down to the Church for Mass. No gum chewing was allowed. We marched in lines. The boys shirts were straightened… and hair combed. The girls skirts were “checked” for proper and respectable length, and so forth. They were no less meticulous in the classrooms.

There was one sister… (whose name has escaped me for many years) who the kids just loved! She was a very diminutive lady, from Hawaii. But she was the “hit of the playground” because she could pull an apple into two even pieces, with her bare hands!

Then, there was my favorite. Sr. Owen Marie. I have often wondered what became of her. She was so sweet. And the other sisters… who made us TOW the line. Sr. William Ann, Sr. Ann Richard and so on.

Sisters… if by chance, any of you are reading this. THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart, for all your hard work and dedication. It made a difference. God bless.:nun2:
 
Quoting MarieVeronica
Sisters… if by chance, any of you are reading this. THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart, for all your hard work and dedication. It made a difference. God bless.:nun2:
Great Post to read, MV! And Amen to what you have to say above! …
 
Ah, yes ! The good Sisters of old - as I recall them growing up…In full habit. While I don’t think some of the headress garbs constricting the edges of their faces were necessary, I like the veils and definitely liked the longer dresses.

The good Sisters - we feared / obeyed them - because they wouldn’t put up with everything that’s tolerated today.

The good Sisters - who made sure you didn’t get too relaxed while kneeling in Church (i.e. half-sitting/half kneeling). I can remember a nun put her hand strongly at my back to get me back upright to the front pew…She was right. I think of that often when I now sort of half-sit/half-kneel (sorry, Sister!) The Sister who taught us that “et cum Spiritu tuo” was not a phone number (i.e. et cum spiri 2-2-0). Not kidding!

Some were feared, some were loved. Some sweet - some not. I could name them. Sr. Marcia - whose encouragement in Literature Class made me well-known and applauded. Sr. Rose who taught music and glee club with a passion, speaking about fingers on the keys of a piano - ‘like spiders on the keys’. (Thanks, Sr. Rose - for the letter on my sweater - for music.) Sr. Rita, who while educating us for First Holy Communion, taught little six-year-olds to stop everything they did - and say a Hail Mary whenever we’d hear a siren passing. (That was a lifetime ago…but I still turn a prayerful thought when a siren passes…Sr. Rita, you taught us well.) I could go on. So many nuns, so many memories - I feel like I’m leaving so much out. But rather, I’ll say - may they rest in peace - so many of these good Sisters, sacrificed so much - put up with so many and who’ve gone to their Eternal Reward.
 
Boy, do I ever have memories of the Sisters !
Selfless, dedicated, generous women who had a thankless job educating and shaping thousands of lives entrusted to them.
Strong, kind, flexible yet firm, all dressed alike, yet each uniquely different in her own way.

Then the church forced them to change and adapt to new ways and many left. This is a tragedy. It was the end of an era.

God bless the Daughters of Mary and Joseph.

Support your aging religious.
It’s time to “give back”.
 
I grew up in a small town and we have a small church. We didn’t have a Catholic School in our town.

The memories I have of the Sisters were only in the Summer time as we didn’t have a Catholic School in our town. They would come in the summer only and teach C.C. class. Every Sat they’d be there.

In my child hood the Sisters wore the full Habit. Now these Sisters were loving, fun and they even played softball and jumped rope with us. Talk about “cool” playing outside with the Sisters.

They taught us many wonderful things during our classes. Those Summer months, I wouldn’t trade it for the world. We all hated to see them leave in the fall. The Sisters comming for the Summer was a “highlight” to all of us kids.

When our children were small they all attened a Cathoic School for one year, (we had to move after that first year across the state, due to job.) so they didn’t get to attened anymore as there wasn’t a Catholic School nearby. They all have very fond memories too of the Sisters, (in full habit) and wouldn’t trade it for anything.
 
Oh yes, I have memories of the Daughters of Charity in the orphanage.

I remember being beaten to a pulp by a nasty twisted old witch, and when her hand hurt she resorted to using her cane.

I remember being made to hang from the monkey puzzle in the yard until my arms went dead and I fell off.

I remember being hit across the head and shoulders with a stick for not lining up quick enough.

I remember having my ear almost pulled off from the side of my head for not answering quick enough.

Oh yes I have memories of the ‘‘sisters’’ - I’m just grateful I never met their ‘‘brothers’’ :eek:

I was taken from the orphanage when I was 7 - now THAT is a really fond memory 😃
 
Oh yes, I have memories of the Daughters of Charity in the orphanage.

I remember being beaten to a pulp by a nasty twisted old witch, and when her hand hurt she resorted to using her cane.

I remember being made to hang from the monkey puzzle in the yard until my arms went dead and I fell off.

I remember being hit across the head and shoulders with a stick for not lining up quick enough.

I remember having my ear almost pulled off from the side of my head for not answering quick enough.

Oh yes I have memories of the ‘‘sisters’’ - I’m just grateful I never met their ‘‘brothers’’ :eek:

I was taken from the orphanage when I was 7 - now THAT is a really fond memory 😃
…very sad and very wrong putting it mildly…
 
Oh yes, I have memories of the Daughters of Charity in the orphanage.

I remember being beaten to a pulp by a nasty twisted old witch, and when her hand hurt she resorted to using her cane.

I remember being made to hang from the monkey puzzle in the yard until my arms went dead and I fell off.

I remember being hit across the head and shoulders with a stick for not lining up quick enough.

I remember having my ear almost pulled off from the side of my head for not answering quick enough.

Oh yes I have memories of the ‘‘sisters’’ - I’m just grateful I never met their ‘‘brothers’’ :eek:

I was taken from the orphanage when I was 7 - now THAT is a really fond memory 😃
Unfortunately, my memories are similar to yours, although they were experienced in Catholic Schools and not an orphanage.

It took me many, many decades to overcome my anger but I have found full forgiveness for the sisters and have come to a better understanding of how such things could have happened. I pray you too have found peace.
 
Unfortunately, my memories are similar to yours, although they were experienced in Catholic Schools and not an orphanage.

It took me many, many decades to overcome my anger but I have found full forgiveness for the sisters and have come to a better understanding of how such things could have happened. I pray you too have found peace.
I have - through the wonderful adorable amazing family that raised me. 👍
As for the nuns, I never give them a second thought. Forgiveness doesn’t come into for me. I care not for them, nor about them. The beatings were a regular feature of our lives there. We were beaten mercilessly every single day, for some reason or other. I was one of the lucky ones. I got out early.
I used to be incontinent of urine with fear of them. I would be beaten for whatever it was I was due a beating for, and would then be beaten again for wetting myself - so from a very young age I knew that hitting people was wrong, and caused unimaginable humiliation and pain to the person being hit. I made a vow at the tender age of seven that when I grew up I would work with people who suffered from violence and abuse - and I have 👍 So I guess I have those nuns to thank for that eh?
 
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