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Bigal
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Do you know friends that get depressed all the time?
How do you feel or deal with this issue?
It seems it never ends?
How do you feel or deal with this issue?
It seems it never ends?
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Lifeisbeautiful3
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Encourage them to seek professional help.
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mrsdizzyd
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Perhaps you should try to be supportive and loving toward your friends and gently urge them toward seeking a professional if it is warranted?
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Lou2U
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Definitely encourage them to seek professional help. Be kind to them. Encourage them to do active things with you, whether that’s going for a walk somewhere or picking up a hobby.
Also be kind to yourself. Make sure you have the support to be a support to them. Look after your own mental health, because it can be difficult when others are struggling, especially when it seems ‘never-ending’. It’s okay to acknowledge that supporting others with depression, or any other mental illness, can be tiring and can take a lot out of the people offering the support. So make sure you look after yourself, too.
Also be kind to yourself. Make sure you have the support to be a support to them. Look after your own mental health, because it can be difficult when others are struggling, especially when it seems ‘never-ending’. It’s okay to acknowledge that supporting others with depression, or any other mental illness, can be tiring and can take a lot out of the people offering the support. So make sure you look after yourself, too.
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0Scarlett_nidiyilii
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If it’s actually doctor-diagnosed depression with lots of relapses, of course you will bear with them.
Hopefully they have other people in their life besides you because you can’t handle all their needs alone.
And they’re not using their depression as a stick-and-carrot to control you with.
Hopefully they have other people in their life besides you because you can’t handle all their needs alone.
And they’re not using their depression as a stick-and-carrot to control you with.
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Mary888
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Are we talking about friends or are we talking about you?
Depression is hard. Of course it feels.it never ends as they are all illusions. When you lose touch of reality time seems to.expand - for good or worse. It’s all an illusion. Being zen or being depressed - illusion.
Depression is hard. Of course it feels.it never ends as they are all illusions. When you lose touch of reality time seems to.expand - for good or worse. It’s all an illusion. Being zen or being depressed - illusion.
Tis_Bearself
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Some people have mental health diseases.
They can’t help it. Yes, it’s frustrating and tiring at times to be around them.
They should be getting professional help. If they aren’t seeing a counselor and/or a doctor, encourage them to do so. If they stubbornly resist getting help, then you might gently limit your contact with them and tell them that it’s too hard for you to see them neglecting their health in this way.
If the person is getting the help they need, and is making a reasonable effort to be a decent friend and not just use you as a shoulder to cry on or a support system for their illness - in other words, you have an actual friendship with give-and-take going on except that your friend is not feeling well sometimes - then I would continue trying to spend time with the person doing things you both enjoy. If something doesn’t work out because the person is depressed that day, then just gently suggest that maybe you’ll get together another day when your friend is feeling better.
Also, feel free to set limits on the friendship. You don’t have to be available to this person every time they want something, in order to be a supportive friend. You have to also have time to lead your own life, which might include doing things with other friends who aren’t depressed. Also if the person behaves abusively or toxically towards you, then disengage. Tell them flat out that their behavior is inappropriate, that you are going to leave now (or hang up the phone or whatever) and you will talk to them again another day. Unfortunately, I have know mentally ill people who will kind of take out their anger or their pain on their friends and it’s inappropriate. The illness doesn’t excuse it.
They can’t help it. Yes, it’s frustrating and tiring at times to be around them.
They should be getting professional help. If they aren’t seeing a counselor and/or a doctor, encourage them to do so. If they stubbornly resist getting help, then you might gently limit your contact with them and tell them that it’s too hard for you to see them neglecting their health in this way.
If the person is getting the help they need, and is making a reasonable effort to be a decent friend and not just use you as a shoulder to cry on or a support system for their illness - in other words, you have an actual friendship with give-and-take going on except that your friend is not feeling well sometimes - then I would continue trying to spend time with the person doing things you both enjoy. If something doesn’t work out because the person is depressed that day, then just gently suggest that maybe you’ll get together another day when your friend is feeling better.
Also, feel free to set limits on the friendship. You don’t have to be available to this person every time they want something, in order to be a supportive friend. You have to also have time to lead your own life, which might include doing things with other friends who aren’t depressed. Also if the person behaves abusively or toxically towards you, then disengage. Tell them flat out that their behavior is inappropriate, that you are going to leave now (or hang up the phone or whatever) and you will talk to them again another day. Unfortunately, I have know mentally ill people who will kind of take out their anger or their pain on their friends and it’s inappropriate. The illness doesn’t excuse it.
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St.Bede
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I must admit, I’ve gone through depression for a period of time before. Thank God, I’ve recovered now. None of those prescribed medications worked. Only though prayer and persistence I’ve gone through it successfully. Faith in God changes everything. So, trust in Him no matter what!
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St.Bede
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Just to clarify everything, this is not to say that I discourage anyone to consult a physician. It’s got nothing to do with that. I’m only referring to my very own experience, and that’s all.
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