Does having "Peace" mean I am doing God's will?

[keblash]

My girlfriend of almost a year (who is protestant) just broke up with me a few days ago. The main reason she gave me for doing so was that she did not feel at peace about our relationship and said she knew that it meant God did not want us to be together. Now that its been a few days she has told me that she feels at peace again because she did what she knew God wanted. Is it right to assume that something is God’s will based solely on one’s feeling and the sense of “peace” they have about it?

 

[ChainBreaker]

My girlfriend of almost a year (who is protestant) just broke up with me a few days ago. The main reason she gave me for doing so was that she did not feel at peace about our relationship and said she knew that it meant God did not want us to be together. Now that its been a few days she has told me that she feels at peace again because she did what she knew God wanted. Is it right to assume that something is God’s will based solely on one’s feeling and the sense of “peace” they have about it?

Sounds like a really mean excuse. But in a sense shes right about one thing; she wasn’t right for you buddy.

 

[JRKH]

My girlfriend of almost a year (who is protestant) just broke up with me a few days ago. The main reason she gave me for doing so was that she did not feel at peace about our relationship and said she knew that it meant God did not want us to be together. Now that its been a few days she has told me that she feels at peace again because she did what she knew God wanted. Is it right to assume that something is God’s will based solely on one’s feeling and the sense of “peace” they have about it?

No - not “solely” - but certainly this can be a component.
One should not place too much emphasis on “feelings” or emotions since these will ebb and flow - even in one’s relationship with God. Yet if one is to be balanced in their life - emotions are a part of that and should not be ignored.

Peace
James

 

[mountee]

It depends on how she means being at peace. If she had had doubts and turmoil going on over your relationship and felt that God was telling her it wasn’t the right way to go, then probably feeling peaceful about the breakup helps her to think it was the right thing to do. Of course, that doesn’t help you if you didn’t share or understand those feelings. I know this must be difficult for you and I will pray for God to help you see His plan for your life and comfort your throughout this tough time.

 

[vz71]

So what exactly are we ‘at peace’ about?

Having arrived at a decision (right or wrong) or making the right decision?

 

[ByTheGraceofGod]

I am sorry for the pain and confusion this has put you through…

I think maybe she’s just relieved that she ended the relationship, so her “peace” is her feeling of “freedom” as she sees it. Which is hurtful to you, but it’s what happens sometimes when relationships end…

For your own sake, you might try reading “Searching for and Maintaining Peace”. It is a little short book.

God bless you and be at PEACE that this experience gives YOU the freedom to be open to the true relationship you are meant to have.

 

[mountee]

So what exactly are we ‘at peace’ about?

Having arrived at a decision (right or wrong) or making the right decision?

In my life if I were to say I was at peace about something it would mean that I am no longer struggling with something that has caused me turmoil. It could be a decision about changing how I am thinking or acting, it could be that I have ended a toxic relationship, I might be trying to resolve a feeling about a certain doctrine, etc. In all of these cases as I work through whatever it is I am not settled and when it is over I feel at peace whether it is just making a decision or feeling that I have made the right decision. It becomes time to move on and live in a peaceful state.

 

[Ad_Orientem]

Suppose for a moment that her peace is not supernatural; that on a purely natural level, she is not a peace being with you. Does it make any difference?