Does insisting on my praying Rosary everyday appear as a self centered pose to protect my life style in marriage?

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I have contacted a Christian marriage agency in Tokyo last year with a registration form. There was a question on the form. State your something that you don’t want to give up in marriage. So, I wrote “praying Catholic prayer for one hour everyday”. I meant Rosary. I got rejected by the agency. A few days later, I saw a new blog post by the agency leader that said they don’t want people who want to use marriage as a means to protect their life style. I wondered if my insisting on praying Rosary for one hour prompted this message. Since Tokyo area has more Protestants, she and the club’s members are mostly Protestants. But the club is supposed to be non-denominational. Do you think my insisting on praying Catholic prayer one hour literally everyday sound life style seeking and not fit for marriage? One thing is I am on a little bit of depression medication and wrote this as well. So this could be the reason. But I wrote that I was fully functional and earned decent salary. I won’t give up praying Rosary for one hour every day. I seriously view it as a means to fight hell and ask for blessings for me, family members, and friends.
 
As I understand it, in Japan, Christians are a very small minority.

It speaks to your character that you are committed to prayer every day. Seek out women who are faithful Catholics, they exist!
 
Oh, and your faith is far more important than your lifestyle! Pity the people running the group, pray that they will come to know faith. They are reflecting a very secular view of marriage.
 
They’re Protestants and don’t want to deal with you as a Catholic.
Find a Catholic agency or one that does not discriminate against Catholics.
I’m sorry you ran into this bias, but better to run into it now than end up with a wife who does not like your Catholicism.
 
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As I read the question “What is one thing you don’t want to give up in marriage”, I assumed they meant things like “my career” or “time for myself” or “going out to eat 4 times a week” or things like that. I’m wondering if the answer you gave, while a nice, honest answer, wasn’t at all what they were looking for?

We don’t know all the other questions or types of questions they asked; perhaps that as well as some of the other answers you might have given on the questionnaire is why yours was rejected? You mentioned you are suffering from depression and on medication so maybe that was a flag for them too. It seems the depression/medication answer would have been a bigger flag than praying one hour a day.

But… trying another organization sounds like a great plan!~ (As others have mentioned).
 
The rejection answer in Japanese society is most often very vague. It includes one simple answer like “we are sorry we can’t have you here” or plain no answer. I got silence response. I contacted two more times for an explicit answer. I knew she saw my email because I did receive a response when I initially sent her the registration form. It was plain rude for the agency’s leader to dismiss my registration request without even sending me a simple note. Even other Christian acquaintances already in the club were surprised by the cold response I received. Now I was left wondering why she wouldn’t want to send me an even simple note stating the reason. Then I saw that blog entry shortly after this incident. And also her homepage had some descriptions changed as well.
 
I’m a old Catholic from Brazil. I’m so proud of you, it has to be said. The rosary is a treasure my friend. I believe it has powers we can’t explain well enough. Hold it close to your heart, no matter what happens. Oh how I would love to say it in Japanese! I’ll think of you when I pray mine in Portuguese and English. Stay strong my friend!
 
Thanks a lot for this kind comment. Today’s afternoon, I was still frustrated from the stated incident. I felt like I was ignored unfairly. I entered Church, stood before Virgin Mary’s statue and prayed for G-d’s encouragement. Shortly after I opened my smartphone and saw your comment. I think I got an answer to my prayer. Thanks for encouragement! I will remember about you in my prayer as well.
 
It is a club for seeking Christian partners. It is non denominational. There are a couple well known ones in Japan. There is one Catholic agency hosted by a Catholic organization but it is very small. Christian population is very small so that these clubs are one good way of finding a Christian partner. There are females 2 times more than males. But this does not mean, at least for me, to have a big advantage. You need to fill out a registration form, take nice pictures of yourself, show IDs, and sometimes certificates of your graduated university and income certificate. Japanese people call such an activity 婚活, meaning marriage realization activity. I have hard time finding a Christian woman of my age. So decided to join. There is no Christian woman at all in the office. Church is basically full of old people and young children.
 
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I think you should look for another agency. Sometimes nondenominational is really just another form of Protestantism.
 
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Church is basically full of old people and young children.
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Maybe one of the elders that attend Mass has a lovely daughter (or grand daughter) who is a practicing Catholic looking for a prospective Catholic spouse.

Back in the “old school” days, this is how one met his or her future spouse. People in the single person’s circles introduced other compatible singles of the opposite gender in hopes of making a love match.

Ask some of the people in your parish or a nearby parish if they know of any single practicing Catholic women called to the vocation of marriage.

Best regards,
MJ
 
Thanks for the comment. That’s what my parents tell me to do also. But I’d rather seek out a partner in a club. Because to be honest I am not an attractive guy and don’t want to embarrass those who try to introduce their daughters and friends. I want to keep my relationship within the church in peace.
 
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