Does my fiancé need to be confirmed in the Catholic Church before we get married

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When my fiancé was a baby he was baptized in the Catholic Church but when it was time to get confirmed and have his first communion the Catholic Church he was at did not have religious education for special needs he went to a Episcopal church and he received his first communion there but was never confirmed. Does he need to get confirmed in the Catholic Church before we can marry???
 
From canon law:
Can. 1065 §1. Catholics who have not yet received the sacrament of confirmation are to receive it before they are admitted to marriage if it can be done without grave inconvenience.
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I’m not sure what constitutes grave inconvenience or what exceptions can be made, but in general, yes, he should be confirmed.

When are you planning to marry? If it’s very soon then it might be harder for him to prepare for confirmation and receive the sacrament. On the other hand, if your wedding is still a ways in the future, there might be plenty of time for him to be confirmed before the wedding.

Talk with your pastor.
 
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The first answer you rec’d is sufficient. The bottom line is, the priest will guide you as he is the one responsible to the Bishop for whatever happens. Congrats on your impending nuptials.
 
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Honestly, it depends on the parish and its pastor. The fact that you are both baptized in the Catholic Church and want to be married in the church makes it a sacramental marriage. I seen some more “relaxed” shall we say, pastors say it’s fine that one is of the couple is fully initiated into the Catholic Church and will go ahead. But many will ask why he can’t go ahead and be confirmed before you get married and will make that a requirement. Now since he has already been baptized in the Catholic Church, he is not required to go through rcia. He can set up a time with a priest today do private catechism once a week and then go to the adult confirmation ceremony at the diocesan cathedral, usually held in February and May.

Just don’t let a little red tape or impatience prevent you from being married in the Church - a full nuptial Mass with Communion. You will be so glad that you did. God Bless!
 
Sorry, it looked cut and pasted.
But honestly, the previous poster is VERY knowledgeable and you pretty much dismissed what she had said.
The bottom line, this is a question for the OP’s Spiritual Director, not internet strangers.
That is the proper person to discuss “complexities”.
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Very impressive and who knows your work might help someone else later on that might come across it. I especially appreciate how you focus on the importance of understanding what a Catholic marriage entails before rushing into it. Please don’t be disuaded from posting in the future. Unfortunately many want quick outcomes for their ‘dilemmas’ and will search for an answer they want to hear rather than the comprehensive and correct answer that you provided.
 
It is not a strict requirement, but some pastors are more flexible than others. See what your pastor says when you contacthim to make arrangements.
 
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