Dreaming about the same people every night

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Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can let go of the past and not dream about the people who have hurt me? Every night I wake up several times. Then when I go back to bed I am dreaming about my late mother who passed away 8 months ago. Although my husband and I took care of her very well she was never grateful. People thought badly of us because of what she told them about us. But we still cared for her in our house on her dying days. I told my mother that I loved her when she was dying. My aunt and I didn’t speak to each other for nearly 10 years then we started talking last year when my mother became terminally I’ll. I have had issues with my aunt and her grown daughters too. Then my sister and her husband gave me problems even when I helped them financially. When I was single I lived with them and took care of her and her children financially when her husband couldn’t provide for them. In return I never even got a thank you but only slandering and tarnishing my name. My sister and I are not in speaking terms. We spoke very little when my mother was dying. She doesn’t live in the same state as I am. Now my aunt who finally started speaking to me after 10 years completley quit talking to me for the past two months. So now every night I am dreaming about my mother, my sister and my brother in law, my aunt and uncle and my cousins. In my dreams almost always they are all angry with me. When my dad passed away almost 16 years ago I used to dream about him every night for 2 years. I had a great relationship with my father and he was the best. But now he hardly comes in my dreams because the others have taken over. I have been trying to think of different topics or talk my kids about different things before I go to bed but nothing is working. Any advice? Thanks in advance.
 
If your mom passed away only 8 months ago, you may very well still be in grief, and your other family members such as aunt, sister etc don’t sound like they are helping you by their behavior. This stuff is in the back of your mind because on some level your brain and emotions are dealing with it, even if it’s subconsciously.

I recommend that you find a counselor to discuss this stuff with. If you are able to talk about it and find ways to deal with it, the dreams may well subside.
 
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Talk to a grief counselor and/or a counselor who can help you work through some of your family hurts. Dreams are one way our minds try to process and work through issues in our lives. Between a dying mother, Covid-19, and your family’s cold shoulder that’s a lot of inner turmoil.
 
Forgive them.

For me, forgivness includes praying the Our Father with “forgive us our trespasses as I forgive (insert name) who trespassed against me”

It includes dwelling on 1 Corinthians chapter 13, reading it in every Bible translation I can get my hands on. Confessing my failures to meet those standards of love.

Litany of Humility has changed my life.
 
I did the same LL, then on a particularly frustrating day at work, I said to myself (but to him) “How can I do all this?” I heard him plain as day and felt his presence when he said to me “I believe in you. You got this.” And that was the last time I dreamed of him.
I think it is because we feel them with us and we let them go, to rest, to be with the angels.
I have more of these stories about others 🙂
 
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