Dropping friends

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I have made friends over the past couple months that I enjoy talking to but also sometimes they talk about topics I do not want to be part of. I need advice on how to say bye to them because I need to live a better life and texting the chat or just reading it does not help me grow closer to God.
 
One thing you could do is end the chat or the conversation when the topic becomes one you can’t participate in. For example, “I don’t support abortion on demand, so I’m signing off for now.” Or “I don’t want to gossip, so I’ll talk to you later.”

If you do that consistently, the friends will stop talking to you, or will admire you for standing up for what you believe and stop talking that way. Either way you will be ahead.
 
If they are truly bad company then just start hanging out in adoration chapel and with friends that will be good for you. Im not sure you need to say anything right now, just lead by example and do other things.
 
I agree. Be courageous. Just speak your mind. Like for example if they talk about something you disagree with like pornography, just say you think it’s disgusting. I’ve gotten my friend who is atheist and used to hate religion to at least appreciate the goodness of Christianity. And I’ve gotten him to realize that pornography is destructive. It’s not impossible.
 
Just leave the chat and move on with life. If a friend group is a bad influence, takes away from God, or is otherwise evil, just leave it immediately and don’t look back. Pray for them. Sometimes you might tell them why you’re leaving, and if you do so you should then leave immediately after with no discussion. I often use “I can’t not maintain this relationship for xyz reasons. I will pray for your salvation, see you at the Last Judgment, goodbye.”

People make social situations more complicated and difficult than they are. God over flesh. Going forward don’t develop close friendships with evil acting people, true friends are good for each other’s souls. When you find a friend like that, keep close to them until death.

Some wisdom from the bible: Who will take pity on an enchanter struck by a serpent, or on someone who draws near to wild beasts? And so it is with one who keeps company with an iniquitous man and is involved in his sins… Whoever keeps step with the wise shall be wise. A friend of the foolish will become like them… I have hated the assembly of the malicious; and I will not sit with the impious… Do not be led astray. Evil communication corrupts good morals.
 
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You’ve been given good advice. Just remember…you have to take care of your own soul.

But, as God put these people in your path, pray for them! It may not look very promising now, but they will be watching you, and may be inspired to improve their own lives, and seek out God’s will. Remember, God does not want anyone to perish! So, keep your eyes open, and, if you can speak to these people without getting involved in sin yourself, try and be a good example.

Don’t preach or talk down to them, but be ready to answer any spiritual questions they may ask you. And pray for them!

Good to see you’re trying to do your best, in these hard times. God Bless!!!
 
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Don’t preach or talk down to them,
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Keeping in mind that “preaching”, like “nagging”, is in the eye of the beholder.

For instance, Friend makes remark about the Church that is factually incorrect.
Other Friends laugh or nod in agreement of remark.
You say, “Well, actually, the Church doesn’t say that, if you’re interested in knowing.”
At this point, your friends can either eyeroll and accuse you of preaching, or they can ask honest questions.

If they’re eyerolling on a consistent basis, you may want to reach out to people who respect your beliefs instead.
 
I used to be friends with people who used drugs, literally smoked joints in front of me. One girl from this group was a pro pole dancer. I cut off these people from my life and don’t look back.

Of course I tried to change their way of thinking, but they liked sex, drugs and rock’n’roll more than they liked me 😜
 
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I had a friend that got me into conversations that i didnt like that much, he was an ateist and he blasphemed casually like it was nothing, one day he tried to start a conversation with me and i said “i dont want to talk to you anymore, i am not angry at you and i have nothing against you but there are some personal reasons why i should not talk to you anymore”, he tried to talk to me again and all i did was nod my head, he got frustrated and stopped bothering me.
 
Thank you everyone for your advice, I really appreciate it! I will take it all to heart and also ask for some help from Jesus 🙂
 
A couple things regarding this is that I feel bad if I just ghost them forever and leave or don’t get to hear everyone say goodbye to me if I leave the chat. I also don’t want to hurt their feelings ugh
 
It depends on the topic. If it’s something narrow-minded, anti-Catholic, etc. I first give people the benefit of the doubt. “Well, to be fair, I’m Catholic, and that’s not exactly true.”

If it’s constant references to drug and alcohol use or anything else that is a bad influence and seriously compromises your faith, a quiet cut-off may be best. Start finding a new crowd and taper off contact with them.
 
Friendship does not move to ghosting because you bow out of a conversation now and again. Friendship is not as difficult as that.
 
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