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Some close friends of mine are habitual marijuana users. They also occasionally use cocaine. What is my obligation to them? I have told them that I don’t think they should use cocaine. Also, they know and admit that these drugs are harmful. Should I do anything else, or should I just let them decide for themselves what they should do?
 
pray for them. prayer actually does work when you pray for others.
 
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Some close friends of mine are habitual marijuana users. They also occasionally use cocaine. What is my obligation to them? I have told them that I don’t think they should use cocaine. Also, they know and admit that these drugs are harmful. Should I do anything else, or should I just let them decide for themselves what they should do?
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What about the pot? Do you condone that?
 
I do not condone the pot use, but they have been using it so long that I don’t really even think about that anymore. I don’t think I have ever spoken to them regarding their pot use, even though I know that the marijauna opened the door for the cocaine. What can I tell them without starting a huge argument. I think they think that Marijuana is just as bad as cigarettes or alcohol. Is it worse. If the only argument that I can come up with is that they shouldn’t do it because it is illegal, that will not fly, because they will just say that it is an unjust law.

Really what I want to know is am I culpable in their sin for failing to prevent it or failing to make a real effort to prevent it? I know that sounds selfish, but I need to know.
 
I think you should try to find some new friends.

And I would advise that you not hang out with these guys while they are doing drugs. You could get caught in all kinds of trouble.

I don’t think there is much else you can do except pray for them. It’s sad to see friends throw their lives away like this, isn’t it?
 
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Really what I want to know is am I culpable in their sin for failing to prevent it or failing to make a real effort to prevent it? I know that sounds selfish, but I need to know.
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No. You told them your opinion. After that, you are not responsible for them unless you are their legal guardians.

Do not narc on them; it is unlikely to help anything and could put you in danger. Do their parents know anything about this – not that I’m advocating you inform them.

Now, if they hassle you about it, try to talk you into it, etc. then all bets are off and you do what you have to do.

Alan
 
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Really what I want to know is am I culpable in their sin for failing to prevent it or failing to make a real effort to prevent it? I know that sounds selfish, but I need to know.
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You’re culpable if you remain silent, which you haven’t done. You’ve spoken about about it. That’s a great start. But I would add that you should let them know their marijuana use is bad too, even if they dont accept your reasoning. At least you warned them.

Also, make sure that you really are warning them; more than just a passing comment. Explain how our bodies are temples. Tell them about Jesus Christ?

If you don’t, we’ve lost a soul to Satan. If you do, at least you’ve planted a seed. But keep in mind that conversion is an act of the Holy Spirit. You need to plant the seed though. The prayer most dear to the Lord’s heart is that for the conversion of sinners. I’d suggest praying some Divine Mercy Chaplets for their conversion. Prayer is going to be your most effective tool.

For info on how to pray the Divine Mercy, go here: marian.org/divinemercy/chaplet.html

God bless!
 
I have found the greatest witness to be by example. Let them see that you can be happy and content, follow God and be sober all at the same time. I think you might be surprised by the results, even if it takes longer than you would like.

However, if they are causing temptation in you, then you should disassociate yourself from them.
 
am I fullfilling my obligation to them simply by living sober, or do I need to openly admonish them? What do I say?
 
Nick, I have a couple friends that do the same thing, it started out with pot and now they do “just a couple lines” like once a week. Basically I have found that I can’t stop them…but I can pray for them that their eyes will be opened to the dangers of these drugs. I try to be a witness to my friends and remind them that what they are doing is wrong and could hurt them. I tell them, “What are you going to do someday when you have kids and they asked if you ever did drugs and you have to tell them that you were a pothead and snorted coke on weekends?” So far it’s falling on deaf ears, I think, cause they say, “I know” and do it anyway.

I hope our friends will grow out of this stage in their life. Pray, pray, pray, and good luck to you.
 
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Some close friends of mine are habitual marijuana users. They also occasionally use cocaine. What is my obligation to them? I have told them that I don’t think they should use cocaine. Also, they know and admit that these drugs are harmful. Should I do anything else, or should I just let them decide for themselves what they should do?
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It sounds to me as if you’ve made your opinion known to them. If they choose to continue doing these things, there’s not much you can do to stop them. This is assuming that they are adults. If they are minors, then that’s different and you should do everything in your power to stop this behaviour. Otherwise, you’ve done all you can.
 
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