EF Wedding

[giuseppeTO]

giuseppeTO;9412086:

My daughter was married two weeks ago. The Mass was a Solemn High Mass (Byrd). It was a First Friday and an Ember Day.[/quotes]
Congrats to you, your daughter!

What do they say when you cross the threshold from single to married?

Whatever they say, is spoken from heart to heart .

 

[TrueLight]

crescite et multiplicamini et replete terram

:thumbsup:

Seriously?

I hope they won’t say that at my next wedding. I’ve done enough multiplying.

 

[Chatter163]

You think that’s more important than how many candles are lit at mass?
Talk about misplaced priorities!

Touché.

No Catholic marriage rite, OF or EF, has ever included the priest saying, “You may now kiss the bride.” Traditionally, Protestant liturgical rites did not, either. However, someone obviously began ad-libbing this bit somewhere along the line, and then through movies, radio and television, it became thought of as routine.

 

[giuseppeTO]

I think you’re both talking about a missa cantata, but you’re calling it a high mass, and Rich is calling it a low mass.

Many parishes/chapels/lmcs don’t have the resources for a solemn high mass, most notably two extra priests or deacons to assist.

In my daughters case, it certainly helped that her brother is a sub-deacon.

 

[Stylites]

I’ll be wed in a traditional Latin nuptial Mass this August (prayers, pls?) and father was explaining the difference. Usually it’s a Low Mass but with a little more pomp; bigshots have Solemn nuptial Masses. The rite of marriage happens before Mass begins, and after the Pater Noster there is a special blessing for the bride. Also, I think normally the Gloria and Credo are omitted, unless it’s also a special feast. The readings are always the same (not chosen by the couple) and read by the priest (not by the couple’s friends) and the music is mostly just the propers being sung, so we had very little work to do planning the Mass.

Congratulations, Rich.

 

[Deo_Gratias42]

Father didn’t say to kiss the bride but implied they could and everyone clapped…no complete silence.

But was there hooting, hollering, and whistling going on during this? That’s what turns me off at weddings.

 

[larsont7]

I’ll be wed in a traditional Latin nuptial Mass this August (prayers, pls?) and father was explaining the difference. Usually it’s a Low Mass but with a little more pomp; bigshots have Solemn nuptial Masses. The rite of marriage happens before Mass begins, and after the Pater Noster there is a special blessing for the bride. Also, I think normally the Gloria and Credo are omitted, unless it’s also a special feast. The readings are always the same (not chosen by the couple) and read by the priest (not by the couple’s friends) and the music is mostly just the propers being sung, so we had very little work to do planning the Mass.

Congrats on the wedding! I, too, was married in the EF back in 2001. Ours was a sung Low Mass, and we were blessed to have several FSSP seminarians (now priests) sing in the choir. My father-in-law is a 4th degree Knight of Columbus, and we were also blessed to have 8 Knights in full garb with their swords held high as we processed out of the church. Definitely a day I’ll never forget!

 

[larsont7]

But was there hooting, hollering, and whistling going on during this? That’s what turns me off at weddings.

Same here. We waited until we were outside of the church before I kissed my bride and people started clapping. Seems much more respectful to Our Lord in the tabernacle that way.

 

[Rich_C]

Same here. We waited until we were outside of the church before I kissed my bride and people started clapping. Seems much more respectful to Our Lord in the tabernacle that way.

That’s a good idea. She was just asking me when we could do that and I didn’t think of waiting until we were outside. Awesome.

 

[mfrances]

Just attended my girlfriend’s sister’s wedding. It was an EF Nuptial Mass. I can tell you the biggest difference was there were four kneelers on the altar as opposed to the usual two for the bride and groom. The extra two are for the maid and man of honor. Aside from the usual Latin Mass not much else in differences. Father didn’t say to kiss the bride but implied they could and everyone clapped…no complete silence.

My OF wedding was 2 weeks ago I had 4 kneelers at my wedding, and no “you may kiss the bride” (our priest also implied that we could, right before the recessional). These things are not differences between EF and OF, it’s just that with the OF it is much more likely that people will vary from the old norm.

I’ve actually never heard “you may kiss the bride” at a Catholic Wedding yet…

 

[moon1234]

My wife and I were married in 1999 at St. Mary’s in Rockford, IL. This is an ICRSS oratory. This is a “High” Mass. It should give you some video of what it looks like:

youtube.com/watch?v=4uXURX5y4eE&feature=results_main&playnext=1&list=PL0959578BA95A34C8

 

[TrueLight]

I guess we’ll see if it’s two or six when we get there. I’m just really thankful for a girl that loves the traditional Mass as much as I do.

Rich, you are probably on your honeymoon and not reading CAF, but congratulations!!!