Ejaculation, mortal sin?

[thearrowkeys]

I apologize for giving ‘too much information’ in my post, but I feel I need to include these things so you guys get my point.

A while ago, I was so preoccupied in sexual thought. And I have heard so much of it being normal, of course, because of teenage hormones. But I was like… “nah thats not an excuse.”

However, I’ve find myself stuck and difficult to rid my mind of these thoughts. Almost like a tune you can’t get out of your head, or a fear that you’re just obsessed with. I couldn’t stop thinking about it.

Eventually I ejaculated, however, it wasn’t through masturbation–or nothing intentional atleast. I honestly don’t think this isn’t a bad thing (except for the lust) butttt… i’m not sure. Even when you put it into context of what a mortal sin is, it still doesn’t seem like it. But does the fact that I found pleasure in it and was still thinking of sex during the ejaculation make it worse?

What also bugs me is that I’ve continually confessed of sins of lust. Sometimes even confusing the priest. It seems almost futile (for lack of a better word, confessions are never futile) that I confess these same things over, and contradicting the part of the prayer ‘amending my life’. I’m finding myself quite scrupulous, but with masturbation being a mortal sin, I’m totally confused.

Sorry if I’m totally confusing you, I’m not sure if sins are actually associated with such technicalities, isn’t it just what ruins you and your relationship with God?

I’m sorry for the weird posts and thoughts, it’s 11:44 PM and I’m tired, but I want to get this answered before I take communion.

Ronnel.

 

[I_A]

Eventually I ejaculated, however, it wasn’t through masturbation–or nothing **intentional **atleast. I honestly don’t think this isn’t a bad thing (except for the lust) butttt… i’m not sure. Even when you put it into context of what a mortal sin is, it still doesn’t seem like it. But does the fact that I found pleasure in it and was still thinking of sex during the ejaculation make it worse?

Ejaculation is neither moral or immoral. Its the choice to use your body in a way it wasn’t meant to be used is what is a sin.

Sin is a choice, you need to choose to sin. If it is not intentional its not a sin. Masturbation is a grave sin, if it is a mortal sin find a regular confessor who gets to know you who is trained to determine your ability to give free consent of the will in this matter.

Lust is a sin too! Once again this is a choice that is made.

An example that happens not infrequently are wet dreams. You can not control what you think about when you sleep. You wake up in the middle of the nocturnal emission. Assuming you were dreaming about something lustful you would still have it on your mind, but you didn’t choose to fixate on that just as you didn’t choose to ejaculate. It might be pleasurable because that particular physical act is, but you made no choice to do it.

What also bugs me is that I’ve continually confessed of sins of lust. Sometimes even confusing the priest. It seems almost futile (for lack of a better word, confessions are never futile) that I confess these same things over, and contradicting the part of the prayer ‘amending my life’.

That’s part of being human. God promised that “whose sins you forgive are forgiven” and he wouldn’t have set up confession like he did if it were meant to be a one time thing. Confession is about growing closer to God, being humble. If you only had to humble yourself once for any of these sins I can see myself becoming very prideful, but the way I am I have to continually return to God and perpetually present to him my weaknesses and hurts. As growth is continual so too is growth through confession.

I’m finding myself quite scrupulous, but with masturbation being a mortal sin, I’m totally confused.

Its kind of not accurate to say that it is a mortal sin. It ***can be ***a mortal sin. It ***is ***a grave sin. Sometimes we are not precise with our words. For it to be a mortal sin it must fulfill three conditions.
CCC 1857:

1857 For a sin to be mortal, three conditions must together be met: “Mortal sin is sin whose object is grave matter and which is also committed with full knowledge and deliberate consent.”

A regular confessor would help to assess how free your consent is.

 

[thearrowkeys]

Thanks for the answer, I_A_, I try to ask, but being nervous and stuttering sometimes, I think I would end up confusing the father.

I never knew the real difference between mortal and grave sin. Thanks a lot, again, you’ve cleared the confusion for me, God bless you.

Ronnel.

 

[Happy_Hour87]

I was told addictions hinder “full consent”, not to justify them or anything.

 

[CRW]

I apologize for giving ‘too much information’ in my post, but I feel I need to include these things so you guys get my point.

A while ago, I was so preoccupied in sexual thought. And I have heard so much of it being normal, of course, because of teenage hormones. But I was like… “nah thats not an excuse.”

However, I’ve find myself stuck and difficult to rid my mind of these thoughts. Almost like a tune you can’t get out of your head, or a fear that you’re just obsessed with. I couldn’t stop thinking about it.

Eventually I ejaculated, however, it wasn’t through masturbation–or nothing intentional atleast. I honestly don’t think this isn’t a bad thing (except for the lust) butttt… i’m not sure. Even when you put it into context of what a mortal sin is, it still doesn’t seem like it. But does the fact that I found pleasure in it and was still thinking of sex during the ejaculation make it worse?

What also bugs me is that I’ve continually confessed of sins of lust. Sometimes even confusing the priest. It seems almost futile (for lack of a better word, confessions are never futile) that I confess these same things over, and contradicting the part of the prayer ‘amending my life’. I’m finding myself quite scrupulous, but with masturbation being a mortal sin, I’m totally confused.

Sorry if I’m totally confusing you, I’m not sure if sins are actually associated with such technicalities, isn’t it just what ruins you and your relationship with God?

I’m sorry for the weird posts and thoughts, it’s 11:44 PM and I’m tired, but I want to get this answered before I take communion.

Ronnel.

Pray, Pry, Pray. Prayer can work wonders when you find yourself in this situation. Do you have an image or statue of the Blessed Virgin Mother? If not get one. It is hard to pray and look at our Mother and continue the same thought process. She had special graces from Her Son that will aid you. Trust her.