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guess who’s going to be at my church next Sunday…

😦 i don’t know what to do, but i might just go to St. Thomas Aquinas just so that i don’t have to deal with seeing him.

i have been doing well in redirecting my thoughts, but now i feel like i have been doing nothing.
 
This brings to mind a memory of when my kids went to the local parish school. My daughter, then a 6th grader, was gushing over Father Ed. Describing him in all manner of adjectives. I had no idea what this man looked like until one Saturday I went to face to face confession. There sat a dead ringer for Mel Gibson. That confession was as quick as they’ve ever been. But at least I knew why all the fuss.
To the OP…relax, it happens. But remember, he is someone already belonging to someone else. And for goodness sake, stop emailing him.

Kathy
 
i haven’t emailed him since i told him, and i have no desire to email him again!! i am well aware of the priest belonging to Someone else, actually.
Katie1723 said:
This brings to mind a memory of when my kids went to the local parish school. My daughter, then a 6th grader, was gushing over Father Ed. Describing him in all manner of adjectives. I had no idea what this man looked like until one Saturday I went to face to face confession. There sat a dead ringer for Mel Gibson. That confession was as quick as they’ve ever been. But at least I knew why all the fuss.
To the OP…relax, it happens. But remember, he is someone already belonging to someone else. And for goodness sake, stop emailing him.

Kathy
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monroesler86 said:
guess who’s going to be at my church next Sunday…

😦 i don’t know what to do, but i might just go to St. Thomas Aquinas just so that i don’t have to deal with seeing him.

i have been doing well in redirecting my thoughts, but now i feel like i have been doing nothing.
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find another Mass to go to. don’t entertain anymore thoughts about this priest.don’t email him anymore either. if i was you, i would tell the therapist that you still have an attraction to the priest, and that you need to work on it to stop it. priests are off limits.people can make you feel accepted without you having a crush on them.

you need to not let this go any further. if i were you, i would not be going to the Mass where he is at. i would avoid it. especially until i got my thoughts and feelings under control. priests belong to God and are holy people. you need to not put any further thought into this, and move on. if you keep on dwelling on it, you might become obessesed with it and might berate yourself. move on. don’t dwell on it.
 
Katie1723 said:
Would you go after your best friend’s boyfriend?

Kathy
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No, I wouldn’t. I’m trying to pray for deliverance here, trying to not have this crush anymore. I’d be grateful if you could get off my back about it…
 
monroesler86 said:
No, I wouldn’t. I’m trying to pray for deliverance here, trying to not have this crush anymore. I’d be grateful if you could get off my back about it…
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i don’t think katie means any harm by what she said. :)i think she was just trying to give you a scenario that might help you out. nothing else. we understand your trying hard not to have this crush and that is commendable it really is.🙂 what we would like to see you do is to not dwell on it any further. i have obesessive compulsive disorder which gives me unwanted and intrusive thoughts. they are hard to deal with, but i deal with them, and fight them all the time, and it leaves me in peace when i fight it.

i fight my thoughts my distracting my mind with other things. as soon as a thought enters my mind that is unwanted and intrusive, i distract it again and do not dwell on it. it took me years to learn to not dwell on my OCD. because of my health, i cannot take meds. so i had to learn to deal with my OCD as best i can.

i have some tips for you. distract your mind every single time the thought of the crush comes to your head. read. pray, go for a walk.say the rosary. but do something healthy the minute the thought comes into your mind. learning to retrain your brain is a good way to overcome unhealthy thinking and focuses your mind
on what is good, Jesus Christ. pray to the most Blessed Virgin and ask her to intercede on your behalf everytime this crush thought enters your head.

the more you retrain your brain, the more successful you will be in fighting your crush.

God bless you!
 
TraditionalCath said:
i don’t think katie means any harm by what she said. :)i think she was just trying to give you a scenario that might help you out. nothing else…!
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Thanks, but I can defend myself. I wasn’t meaning any harm. I just have a hard time when someone asks "what would you do? " and then complains when they are asked a pertinent question, albeit a painful one in relpy. One thing I have learned is when you ask a question here, you are bound to get a few answers that hit a little close to home. Point is, he’s a priest…ergo OFF LIMITS…no bones about it. If you wouldn’t want someone stealing your boyfriend, don’t try stealing theirs.
Kathy
 
Katie1723 said:
Thanks, but I can defend myself. I wasn’t meaning any harm. I just have a hard time when someone asks "what would you do? " and then complains when they are asked a pertinent question, albeit a painful one in relpy. One thing I have learned is when you ask a question here, you are bound to get a few answers that hit a little close to home. Point is, he’s a priest…ergo OFF LIMITS…no bones about it. If you wouldn’t want someone stealing your boyfriend, don’t try stealing theirs.
Kathy
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we know the priest is off limits. all priests are off limits. what we are trying to do is to help the op to get over it and offer her good advice to do just that. as for me, i don’t have a boyfriend:D iam happily married and if someone had a crush on my husband, no i would not be happy about it, but i wouldn’t make a stink over it either. if i knew the person wasn’t going to do anything about it then let it pass.

its not appropriate for anyone to have a crush on a married man or woman, or a priest or a nun. but these things exist, and the best way to help someone is to help them overcome it. there was a lady in germany who liked my hubby a great deal. she made no bones about it either. yes, i was ticked, but i didn’t make a spectacle of myself either. she came over to our table one time and ruffled fenny’s hair, and i did not like it. i said, nice hair do eh? she stopped and backed of.

what she did was wrong, and i made a comment and she stopped. there are good ways to handle things and bad ways to handle things. the good way for monroe to handle this is to let it go and stop thinking about it. and it is easier said that done. she is trying and for that, we ought to give her credit. i highly doubt she will make a spectacle of herself.

i gave her some useful tips in combating her crush. i do not think she would go any further than she has. she is in therapy, and this can be dealt with in therapy. so let’s give her the benefit of the doubt shall we?
 
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