Every time I surrender my romantic relationship to God and Mary, it ends

[LuciaPacifici]

That was my thought. Any time I take control of my life, I screw it up. I want God’s will for me, unless I need some painful lesson, then God might let me have my way.

So I’m to understand God doesn’t want me to have any relationships? Because that’s what happens. It’s easy to talk about surrendering your will if God has given you family and love.

 

[Mamahen19]

So I’m to understand God doesn’t want me to have any relationships? Because that’s what happens. It’s easy to talk about surrendering your will if God has given you family and love.

Perhaps you should surrender your future relationships to God and Mary NOW, and pray for your future spouse while you are at it. Then, just trust that God has his hand in this and will guide you where you need to be in order to meet the one you’ve been praying for. I realize this is difficult and requires patience but I believe it is worth it. When you wait to surrender your relationships after they’ve begun, you are allowing yourself to become emotionally attached to someone and it begins to cloud your judgment.

 

[Lea101]

One catholic speaker did this and in her 5 relationships with different guys, they all went to the seminary after

She then met a guy who left the seminary and got married. And she then realized that her husband was exactly the guy she wrote about before (she made a long list of qualities, and he had every one of them)

I really do think Mary+God got your back on this

 

[LuciaPacifici]

One catholic speaker did this and in her 5 relationships with different guys, they all went to the seminary after

She then met a guy who left the seminary and got married. And she then realized that her husband was exactly the guy she wrote about before (she made a long list of qualities, and he had every one of them)

I really do think Mary+God got your back on this

That’s awesome! I going to keep doing it. I feel a lot more trusting and hopeful right now. Surrendering to Jesus and Mary…

 

[LaughingBoy1503]

I hope so, but then it makes me think why am I only getting bullets? That’s nice to dodge bad things, but all my friends are getting blessings and have not had to dodge as many bad things as me. Yes I am whining but I just get so tired.

Be thankful you get a chance at all. Do you know how many people have NEVER had even one relationship? I go on like 2 dates a year and I am 31 and have only had one girlfriend in my life and it only lasted 4 months. You wanna tell me you have it so bad???

Consider it may be who you are choosing. It is not all fate that is dealing you a hard hand. You have a part in it somewhere. Time to figure out where and make a change.

 

[Zzyzx_Road]

Life isn’t required to be fair. The Lord doesn’t deliver spouses on demand. Would I like to be married? To the right woman, sure. Is that woman going to step into my life tomorrow? Probably not. Am I upset? No, I’ve seen the truth for what it is, not what I would have wished it was. I’ve given that to the Lord and cultivated a sense of gratitude for the blessings I have in my life. I have much to be thankful for.

 

[Elena321]

Wow this really hit me. I guess my problem is that when I am on my own and also not particularly “feeling” God except knowing intellectually He is there…I think something is going wrong in my life. It always seems to me that the majority of people I see in my family and friends and former boyfriends are getting constantly talked to by friends family loved ones. Lots of attention and invitations.

I’m kind of a loner but also because I am not that popular. I also feel extra alone because I can’t be fully myself usually. My family and life have had many problems tgat aren’t polite conversation. And they usually scare people off. I tend to push people away because I figure once they know all that they will be freaked out and also misunderstand me.

So is it true that others find themselves alone? I have learned to enjoy much about solitude from a young age having had no choice. But I long for the meaning that comes with self giving relationship.

Well, maybe I need to stop thinking being alone makes me a freak. I’m sure looking at social media doesn’t help.

:hug3: On top of whats been suggested,i just wanted to add that theres a difference between being alone versus being isolated.
It sounds like maybe you are feeling isolated? If so,i hope your family and friends finds a way to include you more and invite you to more things.

Due to your life experiences,could it be possibly that when you meet a guy now you might give off a needy/desperate vibe?
It would only be expected with your circumstances,but it could be whats scaring some guys off (or you could also be dodging bullets as suggested).

I can relate a lot to what you are saying about social media.Nothing can make you feel worse about yourself or your own life than going on Facebook etc and seeing “everyones” posts of being happy and socialising/partying or going on holidays to great places or their great relationship or just generally having a “blessed” life in whatever way…

 

[Sarcelle]

So I’m to understand God doesn’t want me to have any relationships? Because that’s what happens. It’s easy to talk about surrendering your will if God has given you family and love.

I am beginning to think that God does not want a lot of people to have any relationship, looking at the number of lonely and hurting people out there.

 

[Kay_Cee]

I’m just sad. I noticed how many times this happened. I pray to Mary to take my relationship that is starting with a guy and we break up or he ghosts on me which hurts even more. When did disappearing without goodbye become socially acceptable? I miss decency.

Well it’s nice to say that I’m being preserved for something better or God thinks I’m so special He wants me all for Himself but all I feel is loneliness. Why is trying to get married which I feel strongly called to like rocket science for me? Why did it just happen to everyone else?

People get bored of me and I feel like I’ve tiny thing wrong and people leave. Family too. I want to be different.

Anyone ever feel this way who is happily married now? By the way yes I want to get married, the reason is years of prayer and discernment and because it is not good for man to be alone and it’s a very normal desire as it has been in human history. Nlt finding a boyfriend is not a default to religious life either.

Anyway a guy really liked me this month (that’s s long time for anyone to keep talking to me even as a friend) but he ghosted. I’m so disappointed.

The man I am married to (and happily married, I might add) was the fifth man I fell in love with.

He was also the third man I got engaged to. That’s right: I had two broken engagements.

I can’t begin to tell you how glad I am that things didn’t work out with the previous four.

You don’t say how old you are, but I was 32 when I met my husband (and the next month I turned 33). We married when I was 35 and he was 37. It was the first marriage for both of us.

Believe me, I know how hard it is when a relationship doesn’t work out. And then there were times when I hadn’t even had a date for over a year!

Anyway, I met my husband through a Catholic singles club. I had called my diocese to find out what there was for single Catholics in my area, and they referred me to that. If there had been Catholic dating services online back then, you can believe I would have tried. that.

 

[DarkLight]

One thought: How is your own personal self-esteem? A lot of times girls with low self-esteem tend to attract the wrong sort of guy. And I know when you feel isolated and rejected it can be hard to keep a positive idea of yourself.

 

[Sarcelle]

One thought: How is your own personal self-esteem? A lot of times girls with low self-esteem tend to attract the wrong sort of guy. And I know when you feel isolated and rejected it can be hard to keep a positive idea of yourself.

Yes.

Much like sharks sensing blood, predatory people can be attracted to a hurting, vulnerable, and lonely person. These are the types of people best avoided.

Be careful. You can be as gentle as a dove but you have to as shrewd as a serpent.

 

[LuciaPacifici]

Yes.

Much like sharks sensing blood, predatory people can be attracted to a hurting, vulnerable, and lonely person. These are the types of people best avoided.

Be careful. You can be as gentle as a dove but you have to as shrewd as a serpent.

Thanks. I love that scripture passage. I needed the reminder.