Also there’s the ‘temporal’ misunderstanding.
How often I hear people say, “How could a loving God condemn FOREVER people who only sinned for a time? it’s not fair!”
And it wouldn’t be fair. . .but that is not what happens.
When we die, if we repent our sins, even if it is with the very last ‘nanosecond’ fraction of our last breath. . .we can be forgiven.
However, if we do NOT repent our MORTAL sins (remember this means the sin must be grave matter, must be committed with full knowledge, and with full consent ) at death, then, by definition, we’re still sinning right? If sin separates us from God (it does) and we do not repent and return to God, we are still separated, aren’t we? And once we enter eternity, time as we know it ceases to exist for us. Therefore if we enter in a state of mortal sin, we CONTINUE in that mortal sin, forever.
So the consequence of unrepented mortal sin at death is that the sin continues in eternity and thus the free choice of hell also continues for eternity. There is no ‘time’ in which the person will say, “Gee, what’s the matter with me? i’ve suffered for 50,000 years and now I’m sorry”. The whole idea that a person with unrepented mortal sin will somehow at some ‘time’ be sorry is wrong.
So --how does a loving God handle the freely chosen choice of a person to sin mortally and to refuse to repent?
Like the old trick logic question of ‘can God make a boulder too heavy for him to lift’ --a nonsense question because God cannot do ‘stupid’. . .
the idea that God could somehow ‘make’ eternity into something different whereby eternity becomes ‘temporal’ and thus would enable a person to ‘change his mind’ after x amount of ‘time’ is another nonsense concept. God does not simultaneously exist and not exist; God does not simultaneously make a given action both good and evil, and God does NOT simultaneously allow eternity to be both ‘beyond’ time and ‘part of time’.
Again, it is not a question of God being ‘mean’. It is a misunderstanding of what God, and love, and sin all are. God is love but love is justice along with mercy. It is not ‘mercy whether the person asks for it or not, mercy even if the person won’t accept it’, because that would not be mercy at all.
If you were dying of poison, knew it, knew there was an antidote, but freely chose not to take the antidote because you wanted to punish your spouse, make them feel guilty over your death, make your children orphans in poverty, and above all wanted to make it clear that you didn’t believe in any kind of afterlife. . .but your doctor ‘forced’ you to take the antidote–you would sue him for malpractice, and as soon as possible, go and take the poison again, because it was more important for you to inflict suffering on others and you didn’t ‘believe’ in any afterlife anyway. (you’ll say this is crazy and sadly it isn’t at all. People are capable of much good but they are also capable of evil, and freely choose it.)
Even if you were a being who lived 1000 years, 10,000, 100,000, you would still go on taking that poison if you had the antidote’ forced on you. No matter how merciful it would seem to ‘rescue’ somebody from death, that kind of person would see the ‘mercy’ as something dreadful, in fact as a terrible punishment. So the idea that God’s mercy MUST be perceived as mercy by every soul is also wrong. The offer of salvation is great mercy to those who choose it, but it would be an eternal torment to those who reject it.