Extended punishment for being bi

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My parents took my phone from May until Spetember because they saw that I texted a friend that I had came out as bisexual. Now I have the phone back but it is not considered mine to use, I can only bring it to school and church for texting them. They even deleted all my contacts. Now I have no contact with my mothers family and likely will never have any. Further, they hacked into my instagram and changed the password and the email. My brother can be disobedient for months or getting in a fight without discipline and when he gets it, it will be a couple days but I have been getting disciplined for 7 months and I think it will last until I’m out of the house, so another year and a half. This is the longest any of their children have been punished. Are they being cruel? I know that a phone is completely unnecessary but we have moved multiple tiles over a year and I have no contact with family or friends and get lonely. I have no friends in the area. I even feel like most people at church don’t like me.
 
Please talk to your parents about everything. Initiate dialog with them. Perhaps talk to your pastor as well. It sounds like you are going through a lot of things. Continue to talk to your parents about reinstating privileges and adding family contacts back to your phone.

I understand you are hurting, but it is not appropriate to come here and talk to strangers about your parents and their actions.

As a minor you are under their authority and it is against forum rules for others to undermine parents.
 
I agree, talk to your parents as well as your Priest. Stay calm and respectful, don’t bring up your brother and his punishments to them. Just focus on this, and that you want to have contact with your mother’s family.

I hope you don’t mind me saying, but I also hope you’re getting help for your social anxiety. I remember you posting about it a little while ago.
 
See, it’s really hard for any of us who weren’t there to know what they found on your Instagram, what was said between you and your parents, how it escalated, or what their factors were in taking your phone.

It might not even be about the conversation where you said you were bi.

You say you have anxiety. Are you depressed? Are you acting out or withdrawing or doing all of the many “red flags” that scare parents?
Social media and internet use are very correlated with poor mental health outcomes for kids, and maybe they’re trying to get your brain back on an even keel.
Are you their oldest child?

You should really be talking about sex with your dad, that’s what he’s there for. What’s some teenager going to be able to advise you with—somebody with no more life experience than you? Or more scarily, were you talking to some stranger about these thoughts and feelings.
Did your parents even know about any of this or was it “surprise!”

You don’t sound like a bad kid and your parents don’t sound bad either, but you really should be talking to them.🙂

I’ll remember you all in my prayers 🙂❤️:pray:t2:
 
Speak to your parents in a calm manner.

The “brother gets to do this and I don’t” is not a mature take.

Speak about contacting your mother, perhaps that can be done on the home phone instead of a cell?

Your priest is a good place to begin talking. Your youth minister would be another suggestion.
 
Keep in mind…this is probably a big shock to your family!

Try and speak to a priest. On this site, we’re not allowed to tell you to disobey. But try and understand them, as it seems you want them to understand you. God Bless!
 
Others are offering more spiritual advice, I will offer practical:
  1. Using a land line phone, it is possible to make a collect call by dialing zero, followed by the area code and number of the person you want to reach (Mom). When the operator picks up, tell her you “would like to make a collect call to the number I just dialed”, when she asks, tell the operator your name, the operator will call the number and ask if they will accept the charges, hopefully they will say ‘yes’ and you can then talk. This also works on pay phones, if you can still find one.
  2. Writing letters is an excellent way to communicate with people you love. I have a bunch of letters I saved from corresponding with my wife (then girlfriend). Getting those letters every few days was always exciting, and writing letters forced you to really think about what you are saying and what you really mean to say. Your relationships (with anyone) will be much more thoughtful as a result of written correspondence.
Yes, cell phones are great, and I have one too, but there was life before cell phones and these are some of the ways we used to manage it.
 
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