Family keep saying dog's death is my fault

[angell1]

for the last year or so, my family memebers have been making snide comments about my guide dog passing away. basically saying it was probably something I did.

" you let her get wet in the rain"

“she was too bored when you were at work”

“she probably got cold from the air conditioning at the office”

“your dogs are so unfortunate to live with you”

“maybe it’s because you had to do training in the snow”

as some of you might remember, my dog died from a form of bone cancerat a very young age, the last year or so has been a very painful time trying to recover from that.

logically, I know none of the above things cause cancer, yet part of me keeps wondering if maybe they’re right somehow.

I wish people would stop doing this, it’s been hard enough trying to heal, please just pray for me. I don’t know why they would keep bringing things like that up.

 

[GiftofMercy]

I would get some literature on Bone Cancer and leave it around for them to read.
Angel do you want this in the Prayer intentions forum?

 

[Beryllos]

Of course they are not right. Don’t let them grind you down with their thoughtless and unkind remarks.

You are in my prayers. May the Holy Spirit assist and guide you in these difficulties, help you to be patient with your family, and bring you peace.

Also let us pray for your family. They must be troubled. May the Lord help them with their troubles, and help them to be a lot nicer.

 

[Dlee]

You are not responsible and I think you know that - it’s those who are putting doubts in your mind. Dogs get wet, they live in AC, they like snow - none of this causes bone cancer. Boredom does not cause cancer. They are making comments without thinking. Prayers for your peace of mind.

 

[angell1]

yes, you’re right, most of me knows this, it’s still just painful to hear though

 

[Tis_Bearself]

Why are they doing this? Are they trying to make bad jokes about the situation?

Have you told them it hurts your feelings to hear them talk like that about your dog?

As one who spends a lot of time in social media groups about people’s animals, sometimes people who aren’t “animal people” don’t understand someone else’s grief about their deceased animal companion and they say truly terrible things thinking it’s funny or because they’re frustrated with someone else grieving a dog. That is partly why animal groups exist, because other “animal people” will say, “I’m so sorry for the loss of your friend” and not say anything mean or stupid.

If you can’t get your family to stop saying these hurtful things, I would suggest joining your hurt to that of Jesus on the cross and just offering it up. It’s totally unacceptable for them to say this stuff to you.