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…with my hormones and my crazy sex drive. Gosh. I just want it to go away. I lift weights, in school, and stay active and pray a lot but to no avail as porn has just unleashed on me. I’m so tired of doing all the right things and not getting a reward from God from it.Its a form of cruel torture i would not wish on anyone. period. there is just no escape.

i’m 24. I want a relationship so bad but God doesn’t seem to care. I feel like a chained pitbull that hasn’t been fed for 5 days . I met a lot of quality young ladies but none seem like GF material. … I feel like God has just left me to die a lonely life in the wilderness to get eaten by wolves while all my friends enjoy their girlfriends,etc.

WHY DID GOD DO THIS TO ME? WHY
 
First, you’re not a maniac. I’m one and you’re never at the meetings 🙂

Second, I recommend Matt Fradd - he has websites and books about fighting porn.
 
According to the Catholic Church, it is a sin to have sex before marriage.

So, even if you meet a girl, you will not be able to “enjoy” her because you won’t be married.

Saying you want to “enjoy” a girl, or you want a “reward” is awful, quite frankly. A girl is a person with her own feelings and experiences. She is not a “reward” for you doing as you are supposed to by the rules of your own faith.

Lou
 
I can relate to much of what you are saying. As a young person (20’s) I worked very hard trying to earn God’s love. God’s love is not in sex. God’s love is not in working out. God’s love is not in another person. You can stop working so hard and burning yourself out.

I had to spend years meeting with a “focus on the family” Christian counselor healing my own wounded inner child - who worked so hard to try to earn love. No one gets out of childhood without suffering from the sins of others. May you come to know great peace.
 
First, God hasn’t done this, the devil has. However, I know you’re not looking for advice, so I digress. St. Stephen, St. John, St. Joseph, pray for us. St. Tarcisis, pray for us. St. Dominic Savio, pray for us, and show this servant of God the way to peace and purity. St. Maximilian Kolbe, pray for us. Stay strong, kiddo; God’s just stocking up the graces for you. Our Lady of Grace, Our Lady of Perpetual Help, Our Lady of the Immaculate Conception, Our Lady of Mount Carmel, PRAY FOR US. Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou amongst women, and blessed is the Fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death. St. Agnes, St. Agatha, St. Maria Goretti, patronesses of purity, pray for this man and all the women he will meet, that they may all walk the path of chastity that you all did. Bl. Chiara, you died before you ever got in a serious relationship, but you never lost hope. Pray for this man that he will not feel abandoned. St. John of the Cross, you chose the path of priesthood; guide this servant of God that he may see his vocation clearly. Amen.
 
Unless you start to fall in love with God, you won’t have a God-centered relationship with any girl. Put on that ideal future wife’s shoes, are you "boyfriend material "?

Learn to fear and respect the almighty God first. To sin is to disobey. So if not because of love, be good out of fear. Once you learn to love and recognize God as God, see with the eyes if God and trust wholeheartedly that all will be well according to His Will.

You need to grow up a bit more before taking a new responsibility like that of a romantic relationship. I recommend highly the book Be A Man:Be the man God Created you to be by Fr. Larry Richards (also available on Kindle and Nook that you can install on your mobile and PC).
 
george92 said:
…with my hormones and my crazy sex drive. Gosh. I just want it to go away. I lift weights, in school, and stay active and pray a lot but to no avail as porn has just unleashed on me. I’m so tired of doing all the right things and not getting a reward from God from it.Its a form of cruel torture i would not wish on anyone. period. there is just no escape.

i’m 24. I want a relationship so bad but God doesn’t seem to care. I feel like a chained pitbull that hasn’t been fed for 5 days . I met a lot of quality young ladies but none seem like GF material. … I feel like God has just left me to die a lonely life in the wilderness to get eaten by wolves while all my friends enjoy their girlfriends,etc.

WHY DID GOD DO THIS TO ME? WHY
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A girlfriend to enjoy is not a reward from God. A sexual relationship is only proper within marriage. Even then, a husband and wife are to enjoy the blessing of marital love together. Sexual relations may be used to express love. But care must be taken by spouses, especially by ones with a high sex drive, to not use their spouse in their pursuit of sexual pleasure. Does that make sense?

All are called to live a chaste life, married or not. Conjugal chastity is the particular form of chastity for those who are married. It would be good for you to learn more about conjugal chastity, I think. There are many good resources for those who desire to grow in chastity and master their urges. I bet some other CAF members can offer those. But the porn has got to go. Porn and masturbation are serious sins, and are often mortal sins. It also skews how men view women, and damages relationships.

With ANY vice, there is a time of self-imposed suffering, when we realize we are struggling with a vice (in your case, lust) and it rather disgusts us, but we are not yet ready to give up the sin (sexual sins) or root out the vice (lust). Then comes a time when we are ready to give it up, but the process seems so hard that we are tempted to despair and give up. But we keep trying and we keep working on our relationship with God, and finally we start to see that the vice subsides or even is rooted out. But we must always be on guard against its return. This process can take a while, but God really can give you the ability to conquer vice.

Regarding the actual sins that you commit while battling these temptations and rooting out this vice, you need sacramental confession. My general advice for battling vice is to confess regularly, to do a morning offering each day along with a daily consecration to Mary, and an evening examination of conscience before bed. A daily Rosary is excellent too. If you fall into sin (especially serious sin) make an Act of Contrition immediately, and get to confession as soon thereafter as you are able, and do not receive Holy Communion until after sacramental confession, and you have been returned to a state of grace.

God bless you and good luck!

P.S. One last thing that I encourage is for you to wear the Brown Scapular at all times. If you have not already been invested, you can purchase cheaply a scapular and a little book that has the rite of investing in it that you can take to your priest. He can perform the rite and place your scapular on your shoulders. After that, you can wear it daily and if you ever need to buy a new scapular, you do not need to do the rite again. Just put your new scapular on. I don’t fully understand how the Scapular is so effective, but it appears that so much grace is associated with this simple devotion.
 
E_7 said:
I recommend highly the book Be A Man:Be the man God Created you to be by Fr. Larry Richards (also available on Kindle and Nook that you can install on your mobile and PC).
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My husband really enjoyed that book. He read it in a couple days last year. It was apparently good enough that he didn’t want to put it down. 👍
 
jmjZelie said:
One last thing that I encourage is for you to wear the Brown Scapular at all times. If you have not already been invested, you can purchase cheaply a scapular and a little book that has the rite of investing in it that you can take to your priest. He can perform the rite and place your scapular on your shoulders. After that, you can wear it daily and if you ever need to buy a new scapular, you do not need to do the rite again. Just put your new scapular on. I don’t fully understand how the Scapular is so effective, but it appears that so much grace is associated with this simple devotion.
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YES, the Scapular, and the Miraculous Medal is fantastic as well. In cases like this, Mary has very, very strong intercession. She looks out after her sons (and daughters), after all!
 
Hawkmaid said:
YES, the Scapular, and the Miraculous Medal is fantastic as well. In cases like this, Mary has very, very strong intercession. She looks out after her sons (and daughters), after all!
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How could I forget the Miraculous Medal?! My goodness!

I have worn it daily for years, and never even think about it really. But I will probably never know in this life how many times that devotion, because of Mary’s maternal intercession, has given me the actual graces I need to resist a temptation or cultivate a virtue.

O Mary, conceived without sin, pray for us who have recourse to thee…
 
george92 said:
…with my hormones and my crazy sex drive. Gosh. I just want it to go away. I lift weights, in school, and stay active and pray a lot but to no avail as porn has just unleashed on me. I’m so tired of doing all the right things and not getting a reward from God from it.Its a form of cruel torture i would not wish on anyone. period. there is just no escape.

i’m 24. I want a relationship so bad but God doesn’t seem to care. I feel like a chained pitbull that hasn’t been fed for 5 days . I met a lot of quality young ladies but none seem like GF material. … I feel like God has just left me to die a lonely life in the wilderness to get eaten by wolves while all my friends enjoy their girlfriends,etc.

WHY DID GOD DO THIS TO ME? WHY
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Maybe God is waiting for you to get your “hormones and crazy sex drive” under control before he sends a young woman your way. I am not sure what you are doing that is “all the right things,” that you think you should be rewarded for. Feeling like a chained pit bull chomping at the chain to get loose and go after a relationship hardly sounds like someone in control of himself. You do have a flair for the dramatic that you might want to dial down though.

And there is an escape. Do the right thing. Cut out the porn, the self pity and the thought that God needs to reward you.

This is not your first thread about this. Have you done any of the suggestions people gave you on those threads yet?
 
Irishmom2 said:
Maybe God is waiting for you to get your “hormones and crazy sex drive” under control before he sends a young woman your way. I am not sure what you are doing that is “all the right things,” that you think you should be rewarded for. Feeling like a chained pit bull chomping at the chain to get loose and go after a relationship hardly sounds like someone in control of himself. You do have a flair for the dramatic that you might want to dial down though.

And there is an escape. Do the right thing. Cut out the porn, the self pity and the thought that God needs to reward you.

This is not your first thread about this. Have you done any of the suggestions people gave you on those threads yet?
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I’ve been reading through your older threads OP, and the best thing for you to do is to accept it. Accept that you don’t have a girlfriend and stop measuring your self worth in sex and comparison with your friends.

Being dramatic and immature isn’t going to attract a girl, and you need to see what kind of signal you’re giving out to others. You need to help yourself, because your problems won’t disappear overnight because you have a girlfriend. As I said in my earlier post, having a girlfriend still won’t solve your problems because you need to be married to have sex and even then, you can’t use your wife get pleasure.

Honestly, you need to think of girls as people, instead of a solution.

Lou
 
So true, so true! I didn’t have a medal until about 6 months ago, but I’ve worn it constantly since then. I’m not at the moment, just because it needs a new jump ring, but still! The miracles that are recorded as a result of that medal are totally mind-blowing.
 
Honestly, when I read between the lines of your post, I sense a strong desire to become a better Catholic. And for that I wish to give you compassion and encouragement. However, you strike me like the alcoholic at the bar who orders a drink and as he is drinking it keeps repeating ‘I want to stop drinking’. You appear to be missing the whole point. Wanting to be pure means just that. To change one’s thoughts and see the other gender as children of God, not as something to bring selfish pleasure. So below is my though love
george92 said:
…I’m so tired of doing all the right things and not getting a reward from God from
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Sadly our reward do not come until the next life. the faster a Catholic accepts this, the easier life becomes
george92 said:
… there is just no escape.
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Not true, Jesus is the way
george92 said:
I want a relationship so bad but God doesn’t seem to care.
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God cares very much about young ladies which is why he reserves gentleman to be their boyfriend. Sorry to be harsh but I felt it necessary to point out
george92 said:
I met a lot of quality young ladies but none seem like GF material…
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Quite the contradiction
george92 said:
WHY DID GOD DO THIS TO ME? WHY
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Because of original sin, God did this to the whole male gender. (notice I said male) because real men learn to co-operate with God’s grace and respect women
 
george92 said:
…with my hormones and my crazy sex drive. Gosh. I just want it to go away. I lift weights, in school, and stay active and pray a lot but to no avail as porn has just unleashed on me. I’m so tired of doing all the right things and not getting a reward from God from it.Its a form of cruel torture i would not wish on anyone. period. there is just no escape.

i’m 24. I want a relationship so bad but God doesn’t seem to care. I feel like a chained pitbull that hasn’t been fed for 5 days . I met a lot of quality young ladies but none seem like GF material. … I feel like God has just left me to die a lonely life in the wilderness to get eaten by wolves while all my friends enjoy their girlfriends,etc.

WHY DID GOD DO THIS TO ME? WHY
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Hi George,

I’m very familiar with your situation because I’ve already been there.

You seem to have got seduced by the worldly habits. The kind of habits that I’m talking
about are the ones massively promoted and dictated by the modern society and mass media.

They’re bombarding us with so many unnecessary suggestions related to every aspect of our life that we reach a point where we often lose track of who we are and what truly matters to our happiness and fulfilment. This is where many single guys’ frustrations are coming from, because the pop culture’s dating and feel-good promotional messages are seducing them to believe that if they don’t have a gf or don’t get involved in their first sexual experience by a certain age, they should be extremely worried about it.

To help you get on the right path to enjoying your God-given life to the fullest, I’d like to remind you of just 2 things:
  1. Remember Jesus’s words: “One who’s a friend of this world is the enemy of God.”
  2. To free yourself from all the negative external factors of this world, you should keep yourself busy by doing only the things that you truly love and enjoy. Doing so will help you renew a sense of purpose and feel happy and fulfilled. As the result of occupying yourself with the things that are part of your true passions, meeting the right future partner at the right place and at the right time will naturally fall into place.
God bless you!

Bruno
 
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