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Hi I been married 15 years and the last 6 have been really rough. My husband goes out drinking after work and it has really mess up our marriage. He stopped for some time because I was going to leave him and during that time of his non drinking, we both admitted we were the happiest in our marriage.( at that time we continued going to church no mattered what) Now he’s back drinking and I’m just devastated. I also began a Real Estate job and yesterday lost a client and 3 family members bought houses from someone else knowing how much I needed the money. I feel betrayed and hurt which adds to all the problems and insecurities in my life. I’m crying constantly and feel empty. I have two children which are a priority in my life and is what keeps me going. I pray constantly, and go to the tabernacle to unload my sorrows and do a rosary every day and began attending church again. Please pray for me in this neverending struggle. Thank you God Bless you. Advice is welcome.
 
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Hi I been married 15 years and the last 6 have been really rough. My husband goes out drinking after work and it has really mess up our marriage. He stopped for some time because I was going to leave him and during that time of his non drinking, we both admitted we were the happiest in our marriage.( at that time we continued going to church no mattered what) Now he’s back drinking and I’m just devastated. I also began a Real Estate job and yesterday lost a client and 3 family members bought houses from someone else knowing how much I needed the money. I feel betrayed and hurt which adds to all the problems and insecurities in my life. I’m crying constantly and feel empty. I have two children which are a priority in my life and is what keeps me going. I pray constantly, and go to the tabernacle to unload my sorrows and do a rosary every day and began attending church again. Please pray for me in this neverending struggle. Thank you God Bless you. Advice is welcome.
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I will keep you in my prayers mypenny. I don’t have any advice for you, but keep praying and going to church. I hope that others can give some good advice.
 
MyPenny,

I highly recommend you go to AlAnon. Even if your husband won’t go to AA. You can change your marriage for the better. But it starts with getting help for yourself.
I also go to Eucharistic Adoration. I will pray for you there tonight.
Mary
 
Count on being remembered in my prayers and at Mass tomorrow as well. 🙂
 
You will be in prayers also.

Being an alcoholic myself I drank to escape something ( life ) what is he drinking to escape from? You need to ask him this. Once addiction gets it hooks into you it is hard to quit. How long has he been drinking this time? Does he want to quit? Communicate your feelings with him. Feel free to PM me if you want a perspective from an alcoholics side. I do feel for you I put my wife through hell.

Peace of Christ be with you.

Mike
 
go to AlAnon, the problem is his not yours, learn how to avoid getting sucked into his addiction, you owe it to yourself and your children. If your or their safety and welfare are compromised, leave. Start planning now and getting your affairs in order so you can leave. Get a lawyer and take steps now to protect assets and get right with IRS. Until he shows some signs of getting help, joining AA, getting counselling etc. assume he has no intention of changing and it will only get worse. Been there done that. not with DH thank goodness, but our family is intimately acquainted with alcoholism
 
Al Anon is a great way to get your life back! Find a meeting and go! Know that you are not alone and you are not the only one to have these “living problems”. It’s the best and cheapest therapy you can get.

We will all hold you in our prayers.
 
mypenny ~

Peace to you. I’m glad you are going back to mass. That is probably the best thing for you… go after your faith to make you strong through this. Keep going!
Also… keep coming here to Catholic Answers Forums… it is fun, and you can make internet friends who are struggling through life too, laughing, crying, and praying together. God bless you.
Ridesawhitehorse~
 
Thanks everyone for your support and prayers. And I want to say with all my heart that, thanks God, today was a better day for me. Thanks. 🙂
 
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