Feeling Guilty

[agb70]

I remember asking a priest about feeling guilty even after I have gone to confession. He said that God has forgiven me so I should learn to forgive myself. So please remember that, God has forgiven you so you should forgive yourself. God bless you

 

[George14]

About forgiveness: once we have confessed, it is our DUTY to forgive ourselves. And the reasoning here is this:

Jesus came TO SAVE SINNERS. He wants so bad for us to be with him, to have what He can give: all he wants from us is to CHOOSE that.

Forgiveness is not for those who don’t need it; and the whole of His life was indeed for the very purpose OF making reparation for THE SINS OF ALL PEOPLE OF ALL TIMES. It is for those who DO need it. And it is thorough, complete, and “I will make you white as snow.”

HIS GLORY is in the free gift that he already gave–his life for the life of the world–before you were born. HE is the one to be glorified–because of His mercy.

So we could easily “insult” His goodness to us if we do not “believe in the forgiveness of sins”. REALLY forgiveness. He wants and deserves we trust Him about that. “Make the decision to trust it!”

A parallel: Mom and dad do not want their child to sulk when, after being corrected for some little or even big thing, they want him to come and enjoy their vacation trip or whatever else they have planned for the day. The blunt, insensitive phrase used for situations like this is “Get over it!” – insensitive because it ignores the time needed to process trauma. The Christian version is not insensitive: it is warm and loving: imagine yourself as a small child in the arms of your mother WHO WANTS TO SOOTHE YOUR HURT AND WHOSE TOUCH EASES THE REMOVAL OF THE PAIN. LET it get soothed–it might take some time, but do believe in the totality of the forgiveness. The more you realize He means it, the more valuable the processing of your pain and remorse!

 

[St_Gabriel]

You saved a life so don’t ever be ashamed!

Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death.
Amen

 

[iserve]

The road to heaven in paved with regret. You are sorry…and your Father says “Come”! The story goes that Jesus said He came to call sinners, not saints!
I work with prisoners and constantly tell them that we cannot change the past, only learn from it. Hold your head high, you redeemed a terrible situation with a noble and generous sacrifice. Accept your decision and be healed as much as anyone of us deserves to be so. All of us have had our heart pierced somewhere along the line, and we have all done the piercing at times.Only Gods mercy allows us tokeep going.
Peace be with you.

 

[Tracyms1974]

Hello, Everyone.

  I am overwhelmed by your generous and most charitable responses.  I am feeling a lot better.  I still have "bad" days, but they are few and far between.  I am getting pictures from the adoptive family and Patrick looks very normal, happy, and well cared for.

   To answer some of your questions, I have been asked by my adoption counselor to speak at some point to a group of adoptive parents.  I thought at first she wanted me to talk to a bunch of teenage girls, but no, it was the other way around.  I joked with her and said, "So you want me to lecture the enemy?"  (Ha, ha!)  It's still kinda fresh and my personal life is still a disaster, so she's in no hurry to put me behind the podium.  I told her I'd do it though.  

  He was baptised recently.  I had a little trouble looking at those pictures and had to talk to my counselor, but in the end it was all good.  I just bought him an outfit for Christmas that I'll give to him through the adoption agency.  My family doesn't talk about it much, but they don't have to, really.  I know he's there and he's happy and that's what matters.  I am trying to let this adoption be a life-improving experience at this point rather than a stain on my already less-than-perfect "record."  I appreciate what y'all have said about confession being "final" in that once you're forgiven, you're forgiven and you don't have to worry about it anymore.  It was helpful to read your posts regarding that issue.

  Thank you for all your love and concern.  I didn't think this post would still be getting responses at this point but it shows that you care because I am.  :)

Merry Advent and Christmas,

Tracy

 

[Trishie]

Take care of yourself, Tracy :grouphug:

 

[jnnywren]

Just remember out of this mistake you have made some childless couple parents, so that is a blessing, Also your are sorry for what you have done so you are learning all the time, and anyone you says they dont make mistakes at 30 onwards are either telling lies (so therefore not a good role model) or they are saints and there is not many of them about on earth, so you pray, remember god is a kindly god and he has already forgiven you god bless you.