Finding an accountability partner

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My name is Michael and I am from Romania.I was baptised Eastern Orthodox but now I began a trip to the Catholic Church.

Masturbation and pornography are big problems of mine, so I am looking for an accountability partener. I hope I will find him/her here.Thank you in advance!
 
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In my opinion it is not meaningful to have a stranger be an accountability partner for such a thing… if you want to use some monitoring program (like Covenant Eyes), you need to find someone who is a close friend who knows you and your life, your world… It is much more meaningful and USEFUL that way.

My standard chastity advice on this forum:

There are monitoring programs (like Covenant Eyes) that can help with controlling electronic media. You could try using that with a trusted friend or mentor. Other than that, you need to put distance between yourself and the occasion of sin - keep windows and doors open, take cold showers, reduce (or eliminate temporarily) alcohol use around certain people/in certain situations, etc. Laughing more is also helpful, especially in the moment of temptation (rational delight filling the body - so watch more comedy!) as is fasting and other mild discomfort which distracts the body (holding your breath, biting your tongue, etc.)… just getting up and walking around can also give the space and time necessary to get a grip. Exercise also helps, in various ways, also in the moment… distracting and exhausting the body. Instinctively praying a decade of the rosary (meditating especially on one of the sorrowful mysteries) or singing a verse of a pious hymn will also create the time and strength of will you need to do what is right. Meditate also in the moment on the imminence of death, and always ask for the help of the Blessed Virgin Mary and St. Joseph… and ask the Lord always for the help you need. Go to confession as needed, then return to receiving Holy Communion.
 
Masturbation and pornography are big problems of mine, so I am looking for an accountability partener. I hope I will find him/her here.
Please, don’t ask a woman to be your accountability partner for your struggle with sexual sins. Creepy…
 
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