First Reconcilliation

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I’m 26, and in RCIA, my husband is Catholic, but not confirmed and tomorrow night we will have our civil marriage blessed during an evening Mass. But before hand we both have to go to reconcilliation, and it has me a little jittery. I’ve never been to reconciliation, and I’m not sure what to say or what to expect. Should I be this nervous?

is there anything I need to know before I go?

You’ve all been so helpful when I’ve come to you before, and I sincerely Thank you!

If there is any advice you have I am interested in reading it…

Thanks again!
Jamie
 
For me, the very hardest part of reconcilliation is GOING to Church, and getting in line… once you do that, the rest is a piece of cake :).
Your church probably has some little booklets/pamphlets on reconcilliation in the Church- you may want to pick up one of those beforehand, and it will have a walkthrough in it- what the priest says, what you say, etc. If not, there are some of these online you could print out, too, to take with if you want to 🙂
 
In RCIA you should have learned the proper way to make a confession. If you have not been taught it, please speak to your RCIA director, because this is something that should be part of the curriculum. Regarding how to make a good confession, if you browse previous posts here about Reconciliation, you will see this come up a lot:

Be bold, be brief, be gone!

In other words, don’t hold anything back, don’t go into more detail than the priest needs (simply list the sins you have committed and the number of times), and don’t dwell on sins you have confessed–leave them in the confessional.
 
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auroraj42:
I’m 26, and in RCIA, my husband is Catholic, but not confirmed and tomorrow night we will have our civil marriage blessed during an evening Mass. But before hand we both have to go to reconcilliation, and it has me a little jittery. I’ve never been to reconciliation, and I’m not sure what to say or what to expect. Should I be this nervous?

is there anything I need to know before I go?

You’ve all been so helpful when I’ve come to you before, and I sincerely Thank you!

If there is any advice you have I am interested in reading it…

Thanks again!
Jamie
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I think they have the cart before the horse! If you have not been taught about Reconciliation or “how to go”, then you shouldn’t be going yet? Your RCIA process should instruct you in this process. I would suggest that you contact the RCIA director today.
 
Our priest taught our Reconcilliation class this week, and he covered the history of it and the scriptural basis for it, but no one discussed the how-to…

Thanks everyone!

Peace,
jamie
 
Our RCIA class is a bit like that … we get a lot of information but not much on practicalities. Then we run out of time before anyone can ask any questions. First confession was an exception in that we did get some practical instruction. But a lot of the time I end up asking questions on forums such as this or looking on websites or buying little booklets.
 
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auroraj42:
Our priest taught our Reconcilliation class this week, and he covered the history of it and the scriptural basis for it, but no one discussed the how-to…

Thanks everyone!

Peace,
jamie
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Aurora! I can’t stand this! If you were baptized as an infant, and you must make a confession of the sins of your whole life, you have been SERIOUSLY short changed by this lack of preparation. I don’t know what you can do about it at this point other than postpone the blessing of your marriage in order to give you a chance to catch your breath.

If you don’t know “how” to go to confession, tell the priest that when you go in. I don’t know about you, but as an adult convert, when I made my first confession I was with the priest for two hours. This is hardly a stand-in-line event – though Fulton Sheen gives a great “sample” confession from a man who had been away from the Sacrament for 50 years – and it takes about five minutes! It’s available on the EWTN web site. PM me if you want to hear it.
 
I was baptized at 14, so I would just go from that point on right?

I’ve noticed a lot of our classes seem to be more centered around history, scriptural basis, and tradition and not a lot of the practicle parts.

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Confession is very beautiful and you have to be quiet, because it helps to be a good christian and catholic. Greetings
 
Hello,
I am not sure why you all have tio be hung up on the ‘how’. I am sure the priest (if he is worth his true vows) will not kick you out if you recite something wrong. I think it is good tpo focus on the background and meaning of the event. The point is to talk to the priest and have a dialogue about your needs, ideas, mistakes.

How old are most of us?
Catherine E
 
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