First time later in life marrage

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I met this wonderful guy last year, we have been dating for a year now, he says he plans to propose some time this year, neither of us have been married before, Only I will be 46 by the time we would get married, and he 47, the chances of us having children are slim, and he has medical issues that would keep us from adopting, Would we be allowed to get married in the church? we both want a catholic wedding, Do I have to tell him no, if he asks, because we met too late to have children
 
If neither of you have been previously married there shouldn’t be an issue. Openness to life means you are open to God’s plan for you in regards to children and take no active steps against conception. Natural sterility, whether due to a medical issue or advanced age, is never a sin nor an impediment to marriage.
 
Catholics can marry at older ages. There is no fertility requirement for a valid marriage.
 
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Would we be allowed to get married in the church? we both want a catholic wedding, Do I have to tell him no, if he asks, because we met too late to have children
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Of course you can get married in the Church.

Be at peace. Infertility due to age, disease, or defect is NOT an impediment to marriage.
 
I met my husband when I was 46. We married in the Catholic Church when I was 48.
 
My grandfather got married in the Church when he was in his late 70s.

Of course you can get married. And blessings for both of you!
 
tonild said:
I met this wonderful guy last year, we have been dating for a year now, he says he plans to propose some time this year, neither of us have been married before, Only I will be 46 by the time we would get married, and he 47, the chances of us having children are slim, and he has medical issues that would keep us from adopting, Would we be allowed to get married in the church? we both want a catholic wedding, Do I have to tell him no, if he asks, because we met too late to have children
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Wow, that would be beautiful. Congratulation for that day then. Of course. I do not see any impediment to your marriage.

A bit curious though. What medical issues that are contraindication to adopting a child?

God bless you both.
 
he is bipolar, well controlled by medication, he does get depressed, but then so do I.
 
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he is bipolar, well controlled by medication, he does get depressed, but then so do I.
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Ok. I understand then.

Just to get this clear for both you, it would be good to consult your doctor, especially its implication on your marriage life.

Also do let the priest knows about this factor. It is not for anything that may preclude his decision on granting you the Matrimony, but for legal implication you may want to get this behind you.

God bless.
 
Thanks. We are not getting married right away. But we have had the convention. Making future plans.
 
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