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allyrae
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Can I please have some prayers?
A little background–we have 3 children (2 biological and 1 adopted, plus we have a son in Heaven who died as a newborn). For the past four years, I have been feeling a tug that there is one more soul waiting to join the family. Over the past year, it’s been an overwhelmingly strong feeling. However, my husband is not at all open to new life right now. We use NFP, but I have to be really careful with it to respect his wishes (although it feels uncomfortable because we are not in agreement, yet I am the one that has to say whether it’s a fertile or infertile time of the month). Financially we are fine and our kids are more than provided for. I work 2 part time jobs and homeschool the kids and I have been offered the possibility of my part time job moving to a full time job (pending finance committee approval). It’s a position that would still allow me to homeschool and care for a baby at work if we were blessed with one. He wants to be done with babies so that we are in our 40’s when the kids are adults and still “young enough” to do other stuff (what, I’m not sure…we travel internationally and domestically and we take our children with us, we have a nice home, etc.) . He came from a small family of only two children and I am the oldest of 7. When we were first married, we both wanted a lot of children, but now he sees that his parents are able to travel the world and go where they want when they want while my parents are still raising young children in their 50’s (we are both in our early 30’s right now.)
I do not understand how God can give one spouse an overwhelming urge to have another child and the other spouse doesn’t even have a tiny inkling of wanting to be open to life. I have been praying about this every day–reading the scriptures, saying rosaries, praying frequently each day. I’ve mainly been praying that I am able to accept whatever God’s will is, but I also have prayed that as a couple, we can be open to life and God’s will and let him decide instead of having to be so strict with NFP that there is virtually no way it’s open to life. Can I just please have some prayers please. It’s so hard to have completely opposite viewpoints from a spouse, especially in something I think is so fundamental to a Catholic marriage. Not even so much that I get my own way, but that God’s will can be done and that we are both open to whatever it is and that there is peace and joy in whatever decision it is. I can’t talk to him about it because he will just feel pressured and angry and I don’t really have friends to talk about it with. Thanks…
A little background–we have 3 children (2 biological and 1 adopted, plus we have a son in Heaven who died as a newborn). For the past four years, I have been feeling a tug that there is one more soul waiting to join the family. Over the past year, it’s been an overwhelmingly strong feeling. However, my husband is not at all open to new life right now. We use NFP, but I have to be really careful with it to respect his wishes (although it feels uncomfortable because we are not in agreement, yet I am the one that has to say whether it’s a fertile or infertile time of the month). Financially we are fine and our kids are more than provided for. I work 2 part time jobs and homeschool the kids and I have been offered the possibility of my part time job moving to a full time job (pending finance committee approval). It’s a position that would still allow me to homeschool and care for a baby at work if we were blessed with one. He wants to be done with babies so that we are in our 40’s when the kids are adults and still “young enough” to do other stuff (what, I’m not sure…we travel internationally and domestically and we take our children with us, we have a nice home, etc.) . He came from a small family of only two children and I am the oldest of 7. When we were first married, we both wanted a lot of children, but now he sees that his parents are able to travel the world and go where they want when they want while my parents are still raising young children in their 50’s (we are both in our early 30’s right now.)
I do not understand how God can give one spouse an overwhelming urge to have another child and the other spouse doesn’t even have a tiny inkling of wanting to be open to life. I have been praying about this every day–reading the scriptures, saying rosaries, praying frequently each day. I’ve mainly been praying that I am able to accept whatever God’s will is, but I also have prayed that as a couple, we can be open to life and God’s will and let him decide instead of having to be so strict with NFP that there is virtually no way it’s open to life. Can I just please have some prayers please. It’s so hard to have completely opposite viewpoints from a spouse, especially in something I think is so fundamental to a Catholic marriage. Not even so much that I get my own way, but that God’s will can be done and that we are both open to whatever it is and that there is peace and joy in whatever decision it is. I can’t talk to him about it because he will just feel pressured and angry and I don’t really have friends to talk about it with. Thanks…
