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What do you do during the fertile phases to help with abstaining?

I’ve recently come off some medication that killed my sex drive and basically resulted in prolonged abstinence (lucky for me I have a very patient and understanding husband! ) That said, it now seems I’ve gone into overdrive! To top it off, we will be taking a weekend away from our kids this weekend and will be getting some loooong overdue alone time! Unfortunately, this also happens during our fertile phase so I’m trying think of things that might help us stay faithful to our commitment to using NFP.

Thanks in advance for any suggestions!
 
Is there a definite reason to abstain?

If so, you might want to reschedule your weekend.
 
Is there something [else] that you both especially enjoy? There are lots of ways to spend alone time together and still maintain abstinence…you just have to find things that work for you both. Are you able to give back rubs, and the like, without it sending either of you over the edge? (Don’t answer…it’s just something to think about.)
 
Just_me_85 said:
What do you do during the fertile phases to help with abstaining?

I’ve recently come off some medication that killed my sex drive and basically resulted in prolonged abstinence (lucky for me I have a very patient and understanding husband! ) That said, it now seems I’ve gone into overdrive! To top it off, we will be taking a weekend away from our kids this weekend and will be getting some loooong overdue alone time! Unfortunately, this also happens during our fertile phase so I’m trying think of things that might help us stay faithful to our commitment to using NFP.

Thanks in advance for any suggestions!
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My wife and I love taking weekend trips together, just the two of us. We don’t get to take those trips often at all, but we do enjoy them when we can. However, my wife and I have never taken a trip together, just the two of us, at a time when we had to abstain. I think that would be too difficult. If we were in your shoes, and we really HAD to abstain, I think we would postpone the trip to a different weekend. I realize that postponing the trip might not be easy to do, and of course you are free to do whatever you want. But that is what we would probably do.
 
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My wife and I love taking weekend trips together, just the two of us. We don’t get to take those trips often at all, but we do enjoy them when we can. However, my wife and I have never taken a trip together, just the two of us, at a time when we had to abstain. I think that would be too difficult. If we were in your shoes, and we really HAD to abstain, I think we would postpone the trip to a different weekend. I realize that postponing the trip might not be easy to do, and of course you are free to do whatever you want. But that is what we would probably do.
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Actually, what I wrote is not quite true. We did make a trip like that once, on a weekend when we had planned to abstain, but I had forgotten about it when I wrote my previous post.

(However, about 8.5 to 9 months after that trip, our third child was born.) 😉
 
Just_me_85 said:
What do you do during the fertile phases to help with abstaining?

I’ve recently come off some medication that killed my sex drive and basically resulted in prolonged abstinence (lucky for me I have a very patient and understanding husband! ) That said, it now seems I’ve gone into overdrive! To top it off, we will be taking a weekend away from our kids this weekend and will be getting some loooong overdue alone time! Unfortunately, this also happens during our fertile phase so I’m trying think of things that might help us stay faithful to our commitment to using NFP.

Thanks in advance for any suggestions!
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Just my 2cents… 😃

While on your trip, get out and do so much fun stuff together during the day that you’ll be too tired to do anything but sleep when you get back to your lodgings in the evening.

Oh… and very frumpy pajamas… 😉
 
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