For those that overcame using foul language when mad

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How did you do it?

How do you deal when people do not take your anger seriously when you’re mad because you’re not using bad language? (If that is something you’ve encountered.)
 
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I know there are worse things out there but it’s not a good look for a woman of God 😂
 
Oh my God, Jesus Christ… these are swear words when used in vain.

I used to use them before I became Catholic.
Now when I hear them it hits a soft spot, sends alarm bells ringing and aggravates me a little.

Therein lies the blueprint. Sensitize yourself to swear words. Instead of ignoring your feelings when you hear yourself swear or others swear, take offence to it and cultivate your feelings of disapproval.

I don’t do that myself, because I work with manly men, who swear all the time. If I were to let the swearing get to me, Id probably start fights everyday lol.
So I casually use the F word too. I don’t like to but its a bad habit. Perhaps if I change my environment I may work on changing this habit, but for now its a way of life… Just don’t use the Lords name in vain, and we can get along just fine.
 
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I have two methods - firstly, I count to ten before I speak, and/or I think about what my parents would say if they could hear me 😳
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How do you deal when people do not take your anger seriously when you’re mad because you’re not using bad language? (If that is something you’ve encountered.)
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When I’m angry, I always try to lower my tone rather than raise it, which usually makes whoever it is listen to me. I also put on my best Angry Face, which is somewhere between 😑 and 😡 . I’ve never had a problem of people not taking me seriously with it!
 
For me it’s not taking the Lord’s Name when I’m angry that’s the problem. My problem is with the real foul words such as the f word and s word for example.
 
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Like many other things in life, doing things many times makes a habit, for better or for worse. It is normal to feel anger when an injustice is happening and we are not always in control of our emotions. Having said that, getting rid of foul language (mad or not) is a very big step toward being a better Christian.

As with many other things, we must ask our Lord for His help, it almost seems like I am asking for so many things, but I feel the Lord is generous, if we aim to become better Christians. It is better to remain silent when angry, and speak only after we are in a more calm state. Christ remained silent many times when trialed. Remember our actions speak louder than our words 🙂

Start by avoiding profanity in your everyday life, and little by little, you’ll also avoid it, even if mad, with the help of our Lord. To forgive our enemies it is a grace, because humanly speaking it is almost impossible to achieve.
 
For every swear word I said, I would pray a decade of the rosary as penance.
 
Little by little. Praying for patience and self-restraint. Learning to walk away instead of getting into a shouting match. Avoiding certain people.
 
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For those that overcame using foul language when mad - How did you do it?
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  1. Picturing myself saying “it” to Jesus Himself in person - to His Face.
  2. Keep in mind that as Jesus is God the Fathers Word, all words matter.
  3. The faculty of speech is given us to communicate truths.
  4. Ponder the following:- after using the tongue to speak foul language, I then expect Jesus to be ok with being placed on my tongue - the very same one that was used to speak filth.
  5. Pray often - :Set a guard over my mouth, O Lord; keep watch over the door of my lips."
  6. Brought to mind how Jesus was offered vinegar when on the cross - I don’t want to ‘offer’ Him vinegar, but praises!
 
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How did you do it?

How do you deal when people do not take your anger seriously when you’re mad because you’re not using bad language? (If that is something you’ve encountered.)
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I wish I knew.

I don’t swear in public or around people. Ever. I simply stopped doing it.

Occasionally foul language will come from me in private, like if I’m wrestling with a technology issue or something. It should be enough to remember that my angel and Jesus are with me, but it isn’t. I take them for granted. I think conquering sin has a lot to do with learning not to take good things for granted, especially taking Jesus for granted. He’s such a good friend that it’s easy to walk all over him and not give it a second thought.

Sometimes something or someone good in our life is gone just like that, and then we remember acutely what we lost. But not before.
 
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For me, realizing that Jesus is The Word and that we will be judged for every word we utter made me being to believe that words matter very much. I swore all the time and it took me a couple of years to quit and a couple more to stop thinking them. I said a prayer everytime I swore. I asked God to forgive me and to help me change how I speak to better represent Him to others. It took a long time but finally it ended.
 
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For me, realizing that Jesus is The Word and that we will be judged for every word we utter made me being to believe that words matter very much. I swore all the time and it took me a couple of years to quit and a couple more to stop thinking them. I said a prayer everytime I swore. I asked God to forgive me and to help me change how I speak to better represent Him to others. It took a long time but finally it ended.
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Wow… So it is possible? I’m a construction worker… I cuss 99% less then my co workers but one or two get out occasionally. Still can’t kick the habit. Been trying for at least 4 years unsuccessfully. Say a prayer for me please
 
For me, it took time and a lot of intentional mental effort, but I eventually broke the habit. From my atheist days to becoming a Catholic, I have completely transformed my blasphemous/vulgar vocabulary from constant to rare-to-never.

You have to work on breaking the habit a little bit every day. Use alternative words. Let your anger be shown in tone and other strong words that aren’t vulgar. Once you get there, it’s actually quite easy, because it’s your new habit.

As I was forming my new habit, a Christian rock song that I really identified with was Treason by Kutless, which is about how we commit treason against Christ with our actions. The line “With my two lips I will praise your name, then I turn around and only curse and blame” (at 1:13) always pushed me to do better.

 
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Sometimes a look is all it takes to communicate anger – “THAT” look that everyone recognizes. It speaks volumes. There are other ways to let people know they’re pressing the wrong buttons – and some of them can be quite powerful. Body language, for one, the setting of the lips, the tapping of the foot like you’re just biding your time before hauling off and smacking the offender. It’s like when a cat switches its tail – a signal that someone had better back off. The banging of a fist on a desk or table – these are all nonverbal expressions of anger – and warnings.
 
I never did it so I never overcame it.

(Applause for my helpful comment 👏👏👏)
 
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