Friend says, “Marriage is your ticket to celibacy”

[JamesG]

dulcissima:

What is the purpose of this thread? It doesn’t sound like you are actually looking for any advice for your friend. It seems more like you are just saying “Don’t trust women” by providing a very one-sided look at marriage. What were you hoping to accomplish here?

read post #48

that is the purpose of this thread.

oh and don’t forget to read post #1

 

[JamesG]

1ke:

Then we cannot help you.

That is not “openly talking” with her. That is classic passive-agressive behavior. Confrontation is not talking, it is a power struggle. Talking is sitting down when you are both calm and there is no immediate conflict and discussing future behavior, not what someone has or has not done in the past.

Talking with the focus on problem solving is the best form of communication. Perhaps your friend does not do this, and instead takes an approach of blaming, criticizing, etc. Not that this is his intent, but rather his approach.

here we go again…

exactly how do you come to these conclusions? Why do you even bother to make them when I have provided you with little information on the subject.

The fact is this is a common problem in marriage and there are a few people who have posted on this forum about similar problems already.

 

[ElizabethAnne]

JamesG:

here we go again…

exactly how do you come to these conclusions? Why do you even bother to make them when I have provided you with little information on the subject.

The fact is this is a common problem in marriage and there are a few people who have posted on this forum about similar problems already.

I think what I and other posters are trying to point out to you is that lack of physical intimacy in marriage is a symptom, not a problem. It is a sign that something else is wrong. Usually, when something is wrong in a marriage, it involves partial fault of both parties.

You seek comments on the topic but seem angry at the answers you receive. If we’re wrong about this particular situation, so be it, but I don’t understand why you seem upset with us.

God bless.

 

[JamesG]

ElizabethAnne:

I think what I and other posters are trying to point out to you is that lack of physical intimacy in marriage is a symptom, not a problem. It is a sign that something else is wrong. Usually, when something is wrong in a marriage, it involves partial fault of both parties.

You seek comments on the topic but seem angry at the answers you receive. If we’re wrong about this particular situation, so be it, but I don’t understand why you seem upset with us.

God bless.

well I’ve only posted on these forums for a short while now. I’m just starting to notice that a lot of poeople often jump to false conclusions and read things that were never said. That is my only complaint.

I’m not interested in any conclusions regarding the details of my friends relationship. Quite frankly none of you are in a position to fully understand the situation anyway and they should also remain private.

Simple comments and suggestions can help. I’m sure that people like steveandersen, tdandh26, and Magicsilence
would also appreciate constructive comments.